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In a relationship with a man who is old enough to be your dad, that's nice
What happens if you're a widow at 50?
As I said earlier, he is young and athletic. He may be 25 years older than me but if we stay together, I can only hope that he won't be the one dancing on my grave rather than the other way around. I am an active person. I go to a fitness center and hike, yet there is nothing I do physically that he cannot do better. One time we went out hiking in the desert and I twisted my ankle. I could have hobbled back to the car but to reduce the extent of the injury, he carried me back piggyback. I will say that he does not do well when it comes to getting emotional at chic flicks.
Do most men really want women in their age-range? That's not what I've seen in my life nor in the cultures of other countries around the world. As I mentioned there are exceptions (and already you're trying to herd me into complete stereotyping). Everywhere around the world and down through history, younger women have been attracted to older men. Sorry, it's just a fact.
The often-overlooked fact is that in many cultures past and present, older women have been the ones to provide sexual initiation to boys/young men. As for the older men--younger women issue, it happens, but the more common experience is for older men to choose women in their age-range. Generally, men want someone mature who has some life experience behind them. There are exceptions, like guys who are getting geezerly who suddenly start looking around for someone who can be a caretaker when their health fades, or guys who never grew out of the player stage. But if you look around, you'll see that the vast majority of middle-aged singles marry others of similar age. I've seen men brush aside young women, in favor of women 20 years older than the 20-somethings around them. Just speaking from observation of life, not theory (and not online phenomena). Cliche situations exist, but they're not the majority experience.
The often-overlooked fact is that in many cultures past and present, older women have been the ones to provide sexual initiation to boys/young men. As for the older men--younger women issue, it happens, but the more common experience is for older men to choose women in their age-range. Generally, men want someone mature who has some life experience behind them. There are exceptions, like guys who are getting geezerly who suddenly start looking around for someone who can be a caretaker when their health fades, or guys who never grew out of the player stage. But if you look around, you'll see that the vast majority of middle-aged singles marry others of similar age. I've seen men brush aside young women, in favor of women 20 years older than the 20-somethings around them. Just speaking from observation of life, not theory (and not online phenomena). Cliche situations exist, but they're not the majority experience.
But didn't you know, all older men only want younger women and younger women only want older men, even if they are poor and old looking. That of course is according to many of the posters here who insist men can date younger and women need to date older. You'd be surprised how many men here and on other boards have told me to seek out men in their late 50's and above for a mate. Why some think men can get much younger women is beyond me. Yes some can, especially the better looking or the rich but the average looking, average income middle aged man isn't going to attract a much younger woman in most cases.
Well I am a bit of a weird one. I see attractive older men all the time. But the thing is I never really want to date them. They are eye candy. But I tend to like people around my age. I always seem to attract older or younger. Not so much own age.
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But didn't you know, all older men only want younger women and younger women only want older men, even if they are poor and old looking. That of course is according to many of the posters here who insist men can date younger and women need to date older. .....
Well I am a bit of a weird one. I see attractive older men all the time. But the thing is I never really want to date them. They are eye candy. But I tend to like people around my age. I always seem to attract older or younger. Not so much own age.
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When I first got thrown back on the dating world at forty, I believed the hype that men my age were looking for 20 year old hotties. I was surprised that I was being sought out by men my age. I asked one about that myth and he said, if I want to talk to a 20 year old, I'll talk to my daughter...at least I'd have something in common with her.
So? Welcome to the world of older women. All they're ever told is how 'out of their prime' they are compared to young women.
This is actually true.
I have a friend (guy) who always mentions how the older women get the more "homely" and average they look, and the older men get, the more handsome and debonair they look.
It's like the opposite is happening to both sexes.
The women lose their looks as time goes on and the men gain them.
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