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I would really love to hear from parents with adult children who have been through a divorce..
My exwife and I have been divorced for over 2 months. She currently has a "serious" boyfriend, who has met her family and appears to get a long with everyone.
My ex-MIL contacted me last week, I wasn't able to answer the phone (work), but she left a voice mail about wanting to get me something for x-mas - be it her coming over and cleaning the house, or helping organize things for me, at the house.
I haven't responded.
I'm very torn because I've known them for over 10 years, had plenty of ups/downs with them, they were my family at one point.
Now they're not.
This other guy is in the picture now - and I'm out.
Am I really suppose to just say "bye" to them, and have that be the end?
Or is there some type of loose communication that usually goes on? We're all defriended from facebook, but I'm honestly very curious what's going on with them.
Is that a feeling I should just kill, and move on, and let them move on with the new guy - ?
If you were contacted she is reaching out to keep you included. If you do want to stay in touch, this is your chance. If you have a nephew that you have a great relationship w/ I'd really consider it. The ball is in your court. If you don't contact her, they will likely not try again, thinking you've rebuffed them.
I agree with what others have said. She's reaching out to you. But do it at your desire like lunch/dinner etc. Just because you are divorced it doesn't mean you have to cut them out of your life. I've kept in touch with my ex's mom all this time because we had a fabulous relationship
If you liked them, then by all means continue the relationship. Good people are too scarce in the world to be disposable. But cleaning your apartment is a very weird thing. Offer lunch instead.
Don't let her clean your home, but you can give her a call and say thanks for the offer. The mom probably feels bad that you are alone at Christmas and she knows her daughter is moving too fast.
It's weird, but if you like them, a few phone calls a year won't do any damage. It'll phase out eventually on its own, especially when you get into another relationship. Good luck!
Say No on the house cleaning or organizing. The ex-MIL may be nice but that offer of hers just seems "too nice" of her.
Generally I do not trust people that are "too nice" I think they may be up to something, like gathering info from you for the pot stirring.
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