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I am sorry you were rejected as I know it stings, but he didn't break up with you. You were never his girlfriend. I think the lesson you can take from this is to not get invested in a guy you aren't even dating.
^^^this.
Be a drama queen in private and on CD all you like, but don't make the situation worse by facebooking/smsing/telling a friend.
Be a drama queen in private and on CD all you like, but don't make the situation worse by facebooking/smsing/telling a friend.
You will just look desperate.
I de-activated Facebook. My close friends know and dislike him even more. He was in our circle but I don't think they will invite him anymore.
I invited him to all my get togethers I had. Now he won't be there either.
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Originally Posted by OngletNYC
I am sorry you were rejected as I know it stings, but he didn't break up with you. You were never his girlfriend. I think the lesson you can take from this is to not get invested in a guy you aren't even dating.
I know we did not break up. I was using an example of maybe that is why he wanted to talk to me in person.
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Originally Posted by strawberrykiki
Aww. My heart hurts for you. It hurts to be led on and made to feel like you were someone special when really the other person never had any intention of trying to have a real relationship with you. The guy I mentioned did all those awesome things you said your guy did. Told me how pretty I am, held my hand, told me thing he wanted to do in the future, basically treated me like a girlfriend, but when push came to shove he wasn't really serious. Just remember you are someone special. One lesson I've learned is not to get too emotionally invested. It's what a guy says and DOES over a long period of time that tells the true story of how he feels. Until a guy proves he is worth caring for and trusting and makes it known he wants a relationship with you it's best not to get too attached no matter how charming he seems.
I am so sorry to read this. What a jerk he was. Why can't they make up their minds?
I guess all I want to know is what kind of a relationship will him and this other girl have? I mentioned I was somehow able to see her Facebook. I went on it a couple days ago and saw that he sent her flowers and then 3 days later, he came here and stayed with me. How in HELL does that make sense? If anything, maybe he should be re-considering if he is asking her out. Perhaps he sees something in me that he did not see in her if he can send her flowers and then come to me a couple days later. Or maybe I was just fun "drinking buddy" but it sure did not seem like it when all OUR friends saw us together.
I guess I just want to know he will feel my presence is gone. The get togethers and game nights at my and his place. The jokes we made in our language. The way we used to sing together. The plans we made (movies, casino, game nights) and more. The way we used to just talk and lay there holding hands and cuddling until the sun rose. Will he feel the void or is he really that heartless?
Were you two sleeping together, liberal? I am having a hard time understanding why you thought something was there with a guy who had never bothered to ask you out on a proper date.
Were you two sleeping together, liberal? I am having a hard time understanding why you thought something was there with a guy who had never bothered to ask you out on a proper date.
Noooooo. THANK GOODNESS! We were not sleeping together.
And we had dates planned. I cancelled our movie date the day I asked him if he was seeing someone. I think I wrote that in the OP.
And I wrote why I felt we had something. In fact the post above as well, haah.
Wait, I see you just wrote that he sent her flowers then "stayed with you" directly after. Sounds like you were shagging him. F buddies rarely become dates and even more rarely become girlfriends. Please learn your lesson from this.
ETA: just saw your last response. What did you mean by "stayed with"? And what happened to all of the dates y you had planned, not just the movie date, the other ones?
Wait, I see you just wrote that he sent her flowers then "stayed with you" directly after. Sounds like you were shagging him. F buddies rarely become dates and even more rarely become girlfriends. Please learn your lesson from this.
No. We were not. Not at all.
Not F buddies.
There was no sexual contact.
EDIT: When I say stayed with, I meant he stayed over. Me and him cuddled and held hands and talked until the sun rose. He bought me food. We almost kissed but that was about it. Nothing sexual happened.
EDIT: There were only 2 times. One time I had to call off because I had to stay later for my internship. The other one was at a local Chinese place where he paid for everything. Then we had the movies planned which I cancelled the day off because of what I saw on Facebook. We had a Casino night planned for next week as well which is also obviously not happening.
EDIT: When I say stayed with, I meant he stayed over. Me and him cuddled and held hands and talked until the sun rose. He bought me food. We almost kissed but that was about it. Nothing sexual happened.
"Almost" kissed after months? Well that explains why he was talking to someone else. grown men don't operate that way. No matter though, just don't get invested in a man before you have even kissed!
"Almost" kissed after months? Well that explains why he was talking to someone else. grown men don't operate that way. No matter though, just don't get invested in a man before you have even kissed!
So I have learned.
I am glad we did not kiss though. Imagine kissing him passionately and then the next day, BOOM! Seeing all that Facebook **** and him telling me he didn't know how to tell me. Haha.
It still hurts though to know that all this **** was "drinking buddies". The HELL is that? Not even a good or dear friend?
When you reject someone, you can at least say "You are cool, pretty, awesome...etc etc...BUT....blah blah".
And why the need to say this to me in person?
He just suddenly seemed so....cold.....and distant. Like nothing mattered.
I am glad we did not kiss though. Imagine kissing him passionately and then the next day, BOOM! Seeing all that Facebook **** and him telling me he didn't know how to tell me. Haha.
It still hurts though to know that all this **** was "drinking buddies". The HELL is that? Not even a good or dear friend?
When you reject someone, you can at least say "You are cool, pretty, awesome...etc etc...BUT....blah blah".
And why the need to say this to me in person?
He just suddenly seemed so....cold.....and distant. Like nothing mattered.
If you had kissed him, things would be different. Instead, he lived the advice I just told you: don't get invested in a person you have not even kissed.
If you had kissed him, things would be different. Instead, he lived the advice I just told you: don't get invested in a person you have not even kissed.
Yeah but I feel like if I did kiss him, I would be here saying "This guy kissed me and we did all this fun date stuff and whatnot etc etc and he still friendzoned me and went for the other girl."
I think it would have been worse. Not sure if kissing him would have made a difference or not.
Last edited by Theliberalvoice; 12-19-2012 at 06:41 PM..
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