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Does physical attractiveness really matter at that age?
I mean, I know it still matters, but the same is your 20s and 30s?
I figure if I'm in my 50s and still single (very likely) that I'll put things like personality and trustworthiness and success and compatibility WAY above physical attraction. I mean physical attraction would be quite low on the list. Well, I do that now. But I was thinking that people in their 50s would think the same way. Not to say that you should find someone who is 500 lbs attractive. But I don't see too many women in their 50s where I say, "Ooh , she's cute." Maybe just a few. But like I said, looks in that sense probably wouldn't matter to me at all at that age.
I mean, most people that age, I wouldn't say they are unattractive, but they are not attractive in the same way anymore.
If I read your post without the first paragraph, I would guess you were in your 20s.
Looks do matter in the sense that I have to be attracted to someone, and he to me as well. There are lots of attractive 50, 60 on up, people. We take better care of ourselves with diet, exercise and common sense. I'm not looking for a guy with a 6 pack, but I don't want someone who is obese. But that's me and what I am looking for.
Attraction is just chemistry that works. It's different for everyone which is good or we would all be after the same people.
I'm having a similar experience. I'd like to meet friendly folks between North Jersey and NYC, who just want to bowl, meet for brunch, etc. I'm not lonely either, but there are only a few things that I don't mind doing alone. Although I'd like to meet a nice guy, I'm not willing to put my picture on the internet using the dating sites. I'd prefer to meet someone while I'm out and about, who is attracted to me and take it from there safely.
Hey, I don't blame you about the internet thing. I have nothing against the internet dating sites, it's really just another way to meet people, but I would really like to meet someone through a mutual event like being members of a museum or a friend of a friend. Some common ground that is based on interest and not pressured to "date". Whatever happened to people going to dances and getting to know someone before they even dated? And while I would like to be married, I don't want to rush into anything. I want to date and go through that fun process of getting to know someone. I also don't want a guy who needs to be with me all the time. Yes, there are even guys that are like that. I want him to have interest (just not other women) and I can have my interests. Then we can come together at night for a nice dinner and a movie and discuss politics or world event or whatever. Is this too much to ask???
I'm 36 and I would consider dating a woman in her 50s. The reason would be I would think they are way more mature and have put things like looks and leagues and treating people based on what they look like behind them.
Honestly, does it ever stop? I mean is there a 70 year old woman somewhere in a nursing home who turns down a great 72 year old guy because she thinks she's out of his league?
I'm 36 and I would consider dating a woman in her 50s. The reason would be I would think they are way more mature and have put things like looks and leagues and treating people based on what they look like behind them.
Honestly, does it ever stop? I mean is there a 70 year old woman somewhere in a nursing home who turns down a great 72 year old guy because she thinks she's out of his league?
I don't think it is that exactly...but, say I meet a nice guy, and we have nothing in common but being in the same nursing home? I should hook up with him because that is all there is?
Hey, I don't blame you about the internet thing. I have nothing against the internet dating sites, it's really just another way to meet people, but I would really like to meet someone through a mutual event like being members of a museum or a friend of a friend. Some common ground that is based on interest and not pressured to "date". Whatever happened to people going to dances and getting to know someone before they even dated? And while I would like to be married, I don't want to rush into anything. I want to date and go through that fun process of getting to know someone. I also don't want a guy who needs to be with me all the time. Yes, there are even guys that are like that. I want him to have interest (just not other women) and I can have my interests. Then we can come together at night for a nice dinner and a movie and discuss politics or world event or whatever. Is this too much to ask???
That's not too much to ask IMO, but simple things like that seem to have changed in the last decade or so.
Hmmm...sort of in the same situation. I'm 53 and a widower for little over 3 years...thinking about trying craigslist just as an experiment. Though I'm older I sort of have 'younger' interests...as in things I like to do...so could be fun just to see what responses I get.
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I'm doing just fine with the 40 somethings. 
