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do you really wanna know your wife got tag teamed in college by two dudes from the basketball team?
exactly.
I hate how people keep saying "if youre selfsecure enough you won't mind" ... that only is a small part of it... I don't care if you have a 30 inch schwong and you've dated miss universe... if your GF tells you she once had a threesome on a drunken night you're going to tell me that you won't care and be like "oh that's ok since it happened in the past and you're with me now...."
EVERY MAN KNOWS THAT IT MEANS DEEP DOWN INSIDE SHES HAS SLUTTY TENDENCIES.... it's not the woman you want to have kids with
go ahead and call me sexist but no woman with self-respect will have threesomes because it strictly objectifies the women in a disgusting attempt to reinact a porn scene the participating males have once seen
I hate how people keep saying "if youre selfsecure enough you won't mind" ... that only is a small part of it... I don't care if you have a 30 inch schwong and you've dated miss universe... if your GF tells you she once had a threesome on a drunken night you're going to tell me that you won't care and be like "oh that's ok since it happened in the past and you're with me now...."
EVERY MAN KNOWS THAT IT MEANS DEEP DOWN INSIDE SHES HAS SLUTTY TENDENCIES.... it's not the woman you want to have kids with
go ahead and call me sexist but no woman with self-respect will have threesomes because it strictly objectifies the women in a disgusting attempt to reinact a porn scene the participating males have once seen
Because women can only be "sluts" or "mommies."
Madonna/ho complex, anyone?
You have a very warped view of female sexuality. Of course, when you land your Madonna, you'll be on these boards complaining about how she doesn't like sex and won't sleep with you.
See, guys like you are easy to read. You want the virginal Madonna who suddenly becomes the wild zlut for you and only you.
My wife felt secure enough to tell me her number before we were married. I think some on this forum would be truly horrified if their SO told them the number, based on comments I see here.
I am fine with it. My wife's past is all part of the experiences that make her who she is today, and I love who she is today. I also know her love and affection are with me, and have no need to be judgemental of her past.
How someone is at one stage of life is not indicative of their whole life. If a woman has multiple partners, it does not mean she cannot be happily married, have a healthy sex life, be a good partner or mother, or anything else.
Not exactly sure why double digits means promiscuous in your world, but Im going to repeat myself once again, since so many people today seem to miss this. In the eyes of our society, a virgin man is an equal of a female ****. There is a reason men usualy round up the number of sexual partners and women do the exact opposite, when asked about their sexual past and experience. Depite what women may tell you, they vigurously seek out men who are experienced sexualy and ignore virgins and inexperienced guys. Men seek the exact opposite and the less sexual partners a woman has had, the bigger the prize she becomes. Its the truth and there is only one.
Where did you get this gem about "what women may tell you"...did you read it in that book you quoted a while back?
Lumping all women into one category really isn't helpful.
Men have no clue about women's actual number, unless they are open about it. You can date a "prize" for years and not know she had 100+ partners. It's not like shes walking around wearing a scarlet letter. Male virgins are easily as hard to detect. Obviously, a women will know when she goes to have sex with him (maybe some less experienced women wont).
People's numbers aren't plastered on their foreheads. No one really knows what they're getting, unless the other is honest.
I probably wouldn't volunteer the information. It would be pretty obvious, however, that I was fairly inexperienced, even if I didn't say anything about the topic at all. Women can usually sense these things.
Men have no clue about women's actual number, unless they are open about it. You can date a "prize" for years and not know she had 100+ partners. It's not like shes walking around wearing a scarlet letter. Male virgins are easily as hard to detect. Obviously, a women will know when she goes to have sex with him (maybe some less experienced women wont).
People's numbers aren't plastered on their foreheads. No one really knows what they're getting, unless the other is honest.
I just wonder who the heck even cares in this day and age. Unless you attach some kind of religious, ethical, or moral value to genitalia, I don't see the point. It's sex, not murder.
Really. I'm convinced it's only stupid and/or sexually frustrated people who get hung up on this stuff.
I'd rather have my future girlfriend lie to me about how many men she slept with than tell me she slept with over 20 different dudes.
Yes, I'm very serious.
This subject keeps popping up every now and then. And so many posters share their "It's none of you business" mantra over and over.
I agree with the above post, and IME, most guys I know feel this way.
But the WHY is the important question, and really HOW MANY? is the lesser question.
Usually, the higher the number of sexual partners one has (man & woman) correlates to a higher level of commitment issues/ fears. It doesn't take long to begin intimacy with another adult, and as we get older; most people use less and less time of getting to know someone before they get intimate. But, due to commitment issues, many people repeatedly start new relationships and sleep around because it is so much more fun to have a revolving door of new partners, then it is to stay and actually work and get to know one partner for an extended period of time. And they always have an excuse, "so and so isnt really in my league", "so and so has a temper problem," "so and so and I don't really connect." Those poeple will find ANY reason to justify why they cant continue to date the next sorry sap that comes along. "Why do i always attract the crazy ones?" News flash, everyone else isnt any MORE crazy than you, IT IS YOU.
People do change, but it takes so long.
The last three people I had relations(hip) with, I didnt ask their number. Dear god, I didnt want to know. Cause I know, if I knew, it would drive me crazy. I, and most guys I know, can tell when a women has had a lot of partners, as I am sure most women can tell vise versa.
All I know is this: If there is a chance that I may find out through a friend, or frenemy that you have a HUGE number, it might be worth it to let me know the truth early on. Especially if you are 'hiding your past'.
If you really have true love, they guy/gal probably wont care, cause they love you anyway. If the relationship was so fragile that it crumbled because someone found out the real number, it probably wasnt going to last anyway.
And if you have had a lot of partners, it makes sense to date people who share your view on the issue. I don't understand how people date for 6 months, and then trade numbers and one person is appalled at the others number. Lets be real, you had an idea before you knew the number, and if you had 100, and your partner had 5-10, you bet your butt there is a chance 5-10 partner will be turned off by the knowledge of the 100+ partner history.
Safest bet... date people who you 'think' have had similar number of partners. And once you realize they had significantly more or less, then discuss it, and be willing to end it and move on.
Man's greatest fear - a woman who enjoys sex. Why? Because the presumption is future infidelity.
Beyond ridiculous. Most women I have known in my life love sex and only one has ever been unfaithful. There is utterly NO corrolation between a woman who loves sex and infidelity. And your contention that a woman who likes sex is "man's greatest fear" is absurdity incarnate.
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