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I am deathly afraid of getting older. It seems that when a woman approaches 30, she is no longer valuable or desirable to men as younger girls are. They'll just toss me aside and start chasing after 19 year olds. This is a very depressing state. If I get married, will my husband still lust after me or will he want to trade me in for a 20 year old??
No, just keep working on looking good and lie about your age.... ( - for those on this thread who always take me too seriously.)
Also, why are you ultimately defining your value on how desirable you think you are to men? Who the hell cares? Love yourself, create a life you love without basing it on how young and attractive you seem to men. If you are in the driver's seat of your own life, you are unlikely to feel you may be tossed aside as you are always relevant to yourself. Your relevance is not dependent on another's view of you. BTW, in my experience, this independent attitude (and not caring too much what others think) tends to attract men.
p.s. I will also add OP, that if you only have your looks to depend upon, you may be in for some trouble...
Yes, I've seen this happen in my extended family. I don't know, it seems that men don't value women once we get to a certain age..it's really depressing to watch men in relationships disregard their wives/girlfriends for someone much younger...I fear this will happen to me, actually I think its inevitable
There is actualy a real easy way to be at peace with this and you have the power to make it happen for yourself. Make the right choices, during the years that you are desired and chased by many guys. Choose a guy who is driven, intelligent and polite, instead of that dirtbag that will impregnate you, smack you around and leave you and his kids without blinking an eye. As it stands, we know its commonplace while quality guys wait on the sidelines without as much as mere recognition of their existance.
Now, there is a lot in between your question and "no" since we are making a sweeping generalization.
Guy's don't all just just after young 20 somethings their whole life. Sure, maybe some guys might, but there is always exceptions to any generalization.
Judge their hearts through their actions.
My wife is into her 30's these days... and I wouldn't consider the thought of trading her in! Even though she announced to me with great pain the other day that she found "a wrinkle"
I'm in my 30s, and while some part of the stereotype is true, why go for guys who are willing to look you over for a younger one anyway? Chances are, if that's how they are be glad they're not biding for your time for one thing.
I find that dating in my 30s is more exciting, and the quality of guys I meet are 10 folds more interesting than the guys I met in college who were horny and all over the place. Not that they weren't great, but you'll find the depths of your conversation and connection to be quite.. nice!
People know more about what they want, and they're more into what matters to them.
Lady, 30s are the new 20s. Take care of yourself and enjoy life.
Though, like someone posted, I think some older women probably get approached less than women that are younger, partly because men their age are more likely to be married. I'm 30, and I'm generally attracted to woman 5 years or less my junior. Lots of them are married or getting married, so less for me to pick from
Men certainly won't stop desiring you, but perhaps fewer will. Of course, to some extent it depends on how you look as you age. I'd also say that if you are married to a decent man and maintain a good relationship, he will continue to love and desire you as you both age.
IME guys dont dump women because they are older than 30 years old. Relationships fail due to break downs in the relationship. Many many times, the physical aspect is the leading reason people begin and maintain a relationship together. Eventually, the physical part isnt as exciting. I is inevitable most of the time do some degree.
Do you want to avoid the failed relationship around 30 years of age ? Then you better bring more to the relationship then your physical self. And cooking every now and then doesnt count. Meet or exceed your partners effort and bring meaningful contributions to your and his life.
Seems so many people are only concerned with "What can you do for me?"
If you want a relationship to last, you really should be asking "what can I do for the person I love?" and when both people have that mentality, the chances for success are greater, but certainly not always the solution. It is a good start though.
At the same time, don't let yourself to be taken advantage of. Filter out the users, and find someone who works just as much as you do at the relationship.
This is silly. I'm just into my 30s and I've had just as much action (it's been more serious) as I did in my 20s. I'm more sure of myself, I know what I want, and I don't settle for less.
Worrying about it will only make you desperate, which is what will turn men off.
Over 30 here and still beating em off w/ a stick...
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- for those on this thread who always take me too seriously.)
Even though she announced to me with great pain the other day that she found "a wrinkle" 
