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The tip I will give you is.....get a decent car, if you have to get a loan so beit. Having a decent and attractive means of transportation, will dramatically increase your chances with the college girls. Some college girls have no transport. You can take them places and get to know them that way. Landing the girls aside, it will give you your own personal freedom and independence you lack in not having your own place.
I'm the same age and you should always focus on your studies first. A girlfriend isn't going to finish your degree, get you a job or pay your bills. Be smart and stay out of it.
It's not only about sex, but it may seem like it. It's my entire lack of social value. It's an enigma to me. There are highschool students getting more action than me.
your value to society has nothing to do with whether you're getting laid or not. actually that's the 'nice guy syndrome' that you see on this board. Boys grow up, contribute to society, and then expect that they're suddenly going to be sexually attractive because they can support themselves.
i'm not really sure who or what plants this seed in some peoples' heads, but it's not true, things don't work that way.
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A buff bod isn't going to help if his personality s*cks.
sure it will.
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I'm the same age and you should always focus on your studies first. A girlfriend isn't going to finish your degree, get you a job or pay your bills. Be smart and stay out of it.
That's right college is keeping me from getting laid. The fact that I don't have a job, or much of any social value is the reason I am not confident. I also don't have a place of my own, yet. I would not be able to bring any girls in since I live in a small apartment with my parents and brother. There's just no way I'll be losing my virginity in this current scenario I find myself in.
If only brothels would be legal in the states I'd just pay for sex and become more confident in myself and with women. I need to have my own life before I can have a girlfriend, while people who go away for college can screw whenever they want because they live with each other.
I tell you, if I had my own life I'd be picking up random chicks in the street. But I just don't see the point in having a relationship If I still live with my parents. I have no value, and this bothers me greatly.
Is my thinking flawed or should I suppress myself now then go crazy after I graduate? I want to add i'm bothered because I am 21 years old been going to college since 2009, but looking at 3 more years of schooling and staying at home, career-less.
oh shut up! I lived with my relatives until mid twenties and I had girls running in and out of that place. You are thinking way too much into this, women only start to care when you are 30 anyway. And if they care that much then they are probably just gold diggers anyway.
It's not only about sex, but it may seem like it. It's my entire lack of social value. It's an enigma to me. There are highschool students getting more action than me. I've thought about going to clubs to get pictures of me in cool settings to pimp out whatever online profile I may have like okcupid or facebook. In both those sites my pages are pretty abandoned since they are embarrassing and shameful to me. I guess my problem is I don't want the girl to learn how much I suck.
People get married later and later these days, largely because college education takes a long time and a lot of money and then it takes a lot of time to get established in a career and have some net $ rolling in. So by extension, you needn't be in such a hurry to have serious relationships; they are a distraction at this point in your life and kind of doomed to not go anywhere.
Of course it's supposedly the journey, not the destination, so exploring relationships, including sex, is an option. But that isn't going to happen for you until you work on yourself. And I would say you need professional help. You have zero self confidence and you don't know yourself. People sense that. You call this "sucking" and that's just a self-pitying way to continue to be that way. Get a grip and go to work on yourself. Become the person you want to be. Don't pretend that your'e helpless. You're in an environment where getting help and a clue has never been more possible. Make the effort and persist until you succeed, or you will still be having this conversation with yourself in twenty years.
What you need is hope that this is possible and the will to make it happen. Note that I did not say it's easy, low-hanging fruit. But you are putting a lot of hard work into self-flagellation so I know you have the energy. Direct that energy to useful ends. Quit wasting it.
Why is it that there are so many guys without a pot to pee-pee in nor a window to throw it out of and they still get plenty of sex. So it's not the women it's you. you have no game. People are attracted to personalities as well as looks and money.
Another live-with-parents virgin who is obsessed with bodybuilding?
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