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Im not one of these people who ever bought that women werent as visual or into looks as men so i dont think women all of a sudden started caring about looks with old starting BUT it seems as if its reached a new level thats surpassed even men with old..
Women even average ones have many more options because theyres a lot more men on these sites then women..
If you're a guy under say 5'9 on these sites you might as well be a leper lol..OLD is not very good for us average guys..ive been called pretty harsh names on these sites by women who to be nice arent exactly lookers themselves..
It seems as if old has hirt average mens chances while inflating the ego of average women because of the amount of messages they get and alot of times from men out of their league..
There are some humans (male and female) that have always been shallow and always will be shallow. Then there are those humans who have always accepted others as they are. Then there are those who have changed one way or the other as they have aged. Personally I think many older men are quite handsome and as they age they get even more handsome and my husband is 5'9" and I love him anyway but that could just be me. What is important to a lot of us out here is the person themselves not what body their soul is wrapped in.
The opportunity for shallowness in online dating is there for everyone, not just women. People get to be a lot pickier than they would meeting people in real life, and want to keep their options open in case The One happens to show up in their matches today.
What age are these women you are pursuing? As a woman in my early 20s, I would prefer to date someone who is no more than 10years older than me. This has a lot to do with looks (do you look like you let yourself go? unkempt? more straggly grays than would be expected on someone your age?) behavior (as many men older than this can become unknowingly set in their ways and at times overly imposing of their views which can indicate a sign that we are not compatible) and mindset. It's lovely when I meet older men who take care of themselves and who haven't over-identified themselves with their egos so as to become overly self-righteous to the point that it's insulting and belittling.
Also, I don't believe in leagues and if you are contacting me out of interest then you are not out of my league, though, it may turn out we are incompatible for one reason or another.
If we're not yet an item, you are still trying to sell yourself. And in the world we live in where I don't HAVE to get a man in order to move out of my mother's home, etc., what's my motivation for settling down with you? Letting alone being with you?
There is no excuse for being rude. Rudeness is a worse crime than shallow IMO.
I wouldn't date anyone I'm not attracted to, so that meant I only went out with a small percentage of the men who contacted me online or in person. It's not shallow to want a sexual attraction with the people you date.
Being older made me more particular. I know what I like and do not like in a partner. I was very happy single, and only wanted someone who would add to that.
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Well, that certainly makes the OP make a lot more sense. Thanks!
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