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So my Brother cannot change my tire because he "might" be seen as my "boyfriend" or the friend who is getting a ride home from me because his vehicle broke down can't change the tire that goes flat on the way home because he isn't my "boyfriend/husband"? It's a good thing I can change my own tire.
If Male and Female friendships are affairs...........I am having at least a dozen affairs at this moment. Perhaps I should let them know we are having an affair the next time I have supper with them and their wives.
Would you be okay with your husband and a female friend spending time alone together on a regular basis? That's what friends do.
Would you be okay with your husband and a female friend spending time alone together on a regular basis? That's what friends do.
As I have stated many times before on this forum, I have NO PROBLEM with my husband spending time with his female friends. They have traveled together, they have been friends for more than 20+ years and well before I ever came into the picture. Some of the gals are single, some are not. They have slept in the same bed and/or the same room of a hotel when traveling, he has spent the night at their place, they have spent the night at our home whether I am there or not and nothing sexual has ever happened. I also have male friends who are the same with me and my husband is great with them but he is not jealous, nor threatened and he and I are partners and mature adults and we do not OWN each other.
I am NOT threatened nor jealous of any other woman on this planet when it comes to anyone, even my husband. HE knows he is married to me and I TRUST HIM COMPLETELY so this is a NON ISSUE for us.
I do not compare myself with anyone else because I am who I am and they are who they are.
Honestly every time I tell him about another one of these "Can male and females be friends without sex threads" he laughs because so many just don't get it and cannot accept the fact that humans no matter what gender CAN and ARE FRIENDS with no sexual strings attached.
^^^^ I don't think this is typical. But it sounds balanced. you have friends of the opposite sex and your husband does too. I don't want something like this for myself. Social, sure, going out with other couples and couples in our families is great but no, this wouldn't work for me and most men I have been involved with wouldn't be entirely comfortable with it either.
Would you be okay with your husband and a female friend spending time alone together on a regular basis? That's what friends do.
We have a shared female friend. It's not that unusual for them to be alone together. known each other since middle-school, so she was his friend first. There has been 20 years worth of opportunities for something to happen. Nothing has. I just haven't been lucky enough to make friends with a guy that hasn't gotten an awkward feel to it that leaves me squirming and uncomfortable with the situation.
^^^^ I don't think this is typical. But it sounds balanced. you have friends of the opposite sex and your husband does too. I don't want something like this for myself. Social, sure, going out with other couples and couples in our families is great but no, this wouldn't work for me and most men I have been involved with wouldn't be entirely comfortable with it either.
It is a good thing that all of our friends and us do not strive to be "typical", we do what we do and don't worry with what others think about the situation. It is in our opinion your loss to limit the people in your lives just because they are male or female and that is not acceptable to society because NO ONE can be friends only with the opposite sex because SEX IS ALWAYS AN ISSUE.......pppppffffffftttttttt that is BS at it's finest.
Again, this is how we live our lives and how our friends live their lives and we are definitely not even remotely close to society's accepted definition of "typical" and we thank God for that every day.
It is a good thing that all of our friends and us do not strive to be "typical", we do what we do and don't worry with what others think about the situation. It is in our opinion your loss to limit the people in your lives just because they are male or female and that is not acceptable to society because NO ONE can be friends only with the opposite sex because SEX IS ALWAYS AN ISSUE.......pppppffffffftttttttt that is BS at it's finest.
Again, this is how we live our lives and how our friends live their lives and we are definitely not even remotely close to society's accepted definition of "typical" and we thank God for that every day.
Good for you. It is not easy to do things that are not typical.
Anybody can be friends with anybody. Typically, people don't have a lot of close friends (like 3-4) so for you ladies out there it might seem like most straight men have ulterior motives, but in reality, most of them just aren't going to make the cut anyway.
So my Brother cannot change my tire because he "might" be seen as my "boyfriend" or the friend who is getting a ride home from me because his vehicle broke down can't change the tire that goes flat on the way home because he isn't my "boyfriend/husband"? It's a good thing I can change my own tire.
I didn't say anything to that effect. The OP obviously has a problem with her opposite sex friends and I don't know if she's sending mixed signals, or if they have secret feelings for her. She needs her tire fixed and means nothing by it. One male friend changes it, no big deal. Another male friend who may have feelings for her, does it, hoping it's winning him brownie points, because her needing something from him must mean she feels a certain way.
It's basically all interpretation and perception. We can't speak to why her male friends think there's something more there, but if she asks a favour and they're expecting something, they have the wrong idea about the friendship, so whose perception is skewed and why.
^^^^ I don't think this is typical. But it sounds balanced. you have friends of the opposite sex and your husband does too. I don't want something like this for myself. Social, sure, going out with other couples and couples in our families is great but no, this wouldn't work for me and most men I have been involved with wouldn't be entirely comfortable with it either.
I tend to agree. Of course there are exceptions as pointed out in many of the posts, but I doubt many people who are in a relationship would be open to their SO being alone as friends with a member of the opposite sex. Things just tend to happen when that happens.
I tend to agree. Of course there are exceptions as pointed out in many of the posts, but I doubt many people who are in a relationship would be open to their SO being alone as friends with a member of the opposite sex. Things just tend to happen when that happens.
A close friend's husband stayed at my place several times for a few days each, on his way to and from summer jobs, back when they were students. Nothing happened, nor was there a remote chance it would, and she knew it. That's ridiculous, to say "things just tend to happen". Neither of us was remotely interested in the other that way.
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