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This isn't a question about online dating. I get why people lie on those sites. I'm talking about in person.
I started talking with one of my neighbors who's VERY chatty. Today, she asked me how old I am. I told her to guess and she said 43, which is odd since people usually guess I'm younger. So when I told her how old I really was, she was surprised and volunteered that she was 40. Here's the thing though. Because people's mail sometimes get mixed up when you live in apartment complex, I was able to learn this woman's last name. And when I googled her, I discovered that she's 46. So why do you think she lied? Do you think it had to do with her discovering my true age? And what, if anything should I infer? Does it mean she's interested in me?
This isn't a question about online dating. I get why people lie on those sites. I'm talking about in person.
I started talking with one of my neighbors who's VERY chatty. Today, she asked me how old I am. I told her to guess and she said 43, which is odd since people usually guess I'm younger. So when I told her how old I really was, she was surprised and volunteered that she was 40. Here's the thing though. Because people's mail sometimes get mixed up when you live in apartment complex, I was able to learn this woman's last name. And when I googled her, I discovered that she's 46. So why do you think she lied? Do you think it had to do with her discovering my true age? And what, if anything should I infer? Does it mean she's interested in me?
Not all women lie about their age and those that do I just shake my head at them. I am 52 years old and proud of that manmade number. As my Grandmother always said, it is your choice to tell the truth about your age and be grateful you have reached that number OR be worm food.
Because many women are seen as 'worthless' if they're over a certain age. Hell, I've been told that once I hit 30 I may as well buy a bunch of cats because guys won't even look at me.
This isn't a question about online dating. I get why people lie on those sites. I'm talking about in person.
I started talking with one of my neighbors who's VERY chatty. Today, she asked me how old I am. I told her to guess and she said 43, which is odd since people usually guess I'm younger. So when I told her how old I really was, she was surprised and volunteered that she was 40. Here's the thing though. Because people's mail sometimes get mixed up when you live in apartment complex, I was able to learn this woman's last name. And when I googled her, I discovered that she's 46. So why do you think she lied? Do you think it had to do with her discovering my true age? And what, if anything should I infer? Does it mean she's interested in me?
Within the context of your post: maybe, to protect herself from people who might pry into their private lives .
Within society at large: because we have placed youth on an unwarranted pedestal (most of the time) and we, generally, do not value wisdom and experience and the age that you often must be to have usually gained that wisdom and experience.
Sometimes I am shocked and embarrassed when I think about how dumb I was when I was 25 .
seems like you're the one that is more interested? I mean googling her identity?
I never said I wasn't interested. However, the fact that she lied is a big turnoff. I understand why people, particularly women, are reluctant to divulge their age. They don't want it to be held against them. But keep in mind I didn't ask her how old she was. She asked me and then she revealed her age. What I suspect is that if I had been in my 40s, she probably would've admitted that she was 46. Which brings me back to my original question. Why lie about it? Assuming she has no interest in me, there's no risk. Worst case, I learn that she's 46 and decide not to ask her out. But it's no big loss for her since she wasn't interested in me to begin with.
There were other things in the conversation too. She asked if I was married, dating anyone, how I go about meeting people, what I like to do for fun, what religion am I, etc. Normally, I could chalk all that up to just making conversation. But it was the age thing that made me wonder. Truthfully, I don't know if I would date someone over 45. Of course, there are plenty of other reasons I wouldn't date her. We're polar opposites when it comes to politics, religion, hobbies and interests, personality types, etc. She's very attractive, but I couldn't see it lasting for very long. And I'm not looking for a fling. I doubt she is either. But assuming we were on the same page as far everything else, had she been honest about age, I would've been more flexible. But lying from the outset kind of starts things off on the wrong foot. Suppose we did start dating and then one day she says, "oh by the way, I lied about my age. I'm actually 46, not 40." That's why I don't get why people, men and women, lie about such things. Do they think the truth will never come out and the person won't care that they were lied too? In dating, people tell little white lies all the time. But this is a little more than a little white lie. I have more respect for the person who's comfortable enough with themselves that they don't worry too much what other people will think of them. They say to the world, "this is who I am and if you don't like it, too bad." That kind of self-confidence is very attractive.
When I was underage I lied and said I was older. I'm 32 now and I haven't felt the need to lie about my age. I don't know why someone would lie and say they were younger.
I've seen both genders lie about their age. One is a guy who is a former classmate of mine who was a competitive athlete and now runs a training business. It is interesting that he would be willing to lie when so many people local to him know he is lying and it is easily proven what his true age is.
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and embarrassed 
when I think 
about how dumb 
I was when I was 25 
