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In the end, you better be happy with the one who likes you. Let's say, you love a "Heather Locklear" type, but this type is not interested in you at all, and yet, "Kathy Bates", is crazy about you.
Stay alone for the rest of your life, because you can't get "Heather"? Or settle for, "Kathy"? Are you miserable with Kathy?
This is common. Probably happens more than we know.
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Initial attraction isn't real love. None of this 'love at first sight BS', there's infatuation and lust at first sight, but not real love. So if you can see yourself falling for the one who's interested in you, at least take a chance.
Initial attraction isn't real love. None of this 'love at first sight BS', there's infatuation and lust at first sight, but not real love. So if you can see yourself falling for the one who's interested in you, at least take a chance.
Very true. You have to know a person before you can love them.
There can also be a person that has most of your deal breakers and you may fall in love with them. I know many people in happy marriages that I would never have put together. They married people that had nothing in common with anyone they ever dated before.
Exactly. Minus the suicidal thoughts. Everyone of the guys I had a relationship with I asked them out. They were shocked that I liked them. All were happy that I asked them. I'm told on this forum to let them ask you out. What and wait until I'm eligible for medicare?
I had the radio on and the old song Love The One You're With came on the radio. Basically the verse of the song is "if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with" which made me wonder. Let's say you're at a party and there are two people there of the gender you prefer. One of them you click with big time only it's in your head. This person is exactly the person you want, only they tell you they aren't interested. Maybe they have a SO or busy with work or whatever. However someone at the party is interested in you but you aren't into them. They aren't your physical type or their morals don't fit with yours.
Anyway, my question is would you go on a date with the person who really likes you or wait for the person you like to come around? in the past I have done both so no idea what I would do. My cynical side says I would use the person who really likes me hoping something develops but my non cynical side says I probably would politely reject them and instead of wait for the other person try to meet someone else.
Just a random thought that doesn't in any way pertain to me but did often while looking for the one.
I prefer to call it............"PLAY with the one who wants you while you wait for the one you want"
But is that a good idea? Way too many people sleep with someone because they are there and the other person thinks it's serious. Then the person dumps them for the one they want and other feels used. However if both are on the same page then I see nothing wrong with it.
Btw interesting comments from most and I am glad most people realize this isn't about me at all. However I have seen this far too often. I suspect it's why so many divorce or are unhappy.
Exactly. Minus the suicidal thoughts. Everyone of the guys I had a relationship with I asked them out. They were shocked that I liked them. All were happy that I asked them. I'm told on this forum to let them ask you out. What and wait until I'm eligible for medicare?
I prefer to call it............"PLAY with the one who wants you while you wait for the one you want"
I could never do that to someone, once im settled in I will continue to play with that person until I die or THEY leave. I hate dating, its time consuming and exhausting.
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