Date the one who wants you or wait for the one you want?
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
I am not sure how to ask this gently and tactfully, but do you have some sort of problem with masturbation? Does it not work for you, or do you have beliefs or conditioning that make it psychologically uncomfortable? Or something?
I really don't mean to pry into your private life. It's just that, they way you write about sex doesn't seem to quite make sense.
I'd rather be single than dating someone just to have someone. That's unfair to them also. They may be happy you're with them at first, but the deserve someone crazy about them too.
Rarely is this stuff black & white though. If someone is not unattractive to me or does not have "opposing morals" as you say, then I might give him a chance & see if he grows on me.
And if someone doesn't find ME attractive, then they quickly lose my interest, so the "one I want" who doesn't want me won't be the one I want for very long.
I am not sure how to ask this gently and tactfully, but do you have some sort of problem with masturbation? Does it not work for you, or do you have beliefs or conditioning that make it psychologically uncomfortable? Or something?
I really don't mean to pry into your private life. It's just that, they way you write about sex doesn't seem to quite make sense.
I suspect this is more of an emotional issue, and yes, even for a man. Lack of intimacy is likely the real problem, more so than just physical release. That certainly can be wearing on many, even physically, and not affect others so much. It depends on emotional makeup.
Sex with a partner is not the same as masturbation anyway....
I wouldn't wait around hoping someone would change their mind and start to like me. Assuming I wasn't completely repulsed by the person who liked me, then I might give them a chance to see if I liked them better after a few dates. If I didn't, then I'd just keep waiting hoping to meet someone I really like who feels the same way. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than settle just to avoid being alone.
I wouldn't wait around hoping someone would change their mind and start to like me. Assuming I wasn't completely repulsed by the person who liked me, then I might give them a chance to see if I liked them better after a few dates. If I didn't, then I'd just keep waiting hoping to meet someone I really like who feels the same way. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than settle just to avoid being alone.
This is smart. You don't make any assumptions about a person based on your present feelings, but you don't "settle" on traits you consider important in a mate either.
So long as you have the self-control to date a few times without taking it to the next level (either relationship-wise or sexually), I say date away.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
