Date the one who wants you or wait for the one you want? (dating, married)
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I had the radio on and the old song Love The One You're With came on the radio. Basically the verse of the song is "if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with" which made me wonder. Let's say you're at a party and there are two people there of the gender you prefer. One of them you click with big time only it's in your head. This person is exactly the person you want, only they tell you they aren't interested. Maybe they have a SO or busy with work or whatever. However someone at the party is interested in you but you aren't into them. They aren't your physical type or their morals don't fit with yours.
Anyway, my question is would you go on a date with the person who really likes you or wait for the person you like to come around? in the past I have done both so no idea what I would do. My cynical side says I would use the person who really likes me hoping something develops but my non cynical side says I probably would politely reject them and instead of wait for the other person try to meet someone else.
Just a random thought that doesn't in any way pertain to me but did often while looking for the one.
In a strange irony this did happen to me about 15 years ago at an event (not a party)where this one guy was really hitting on me and begging me to date him and there was another guy there who was basically ignoring me. I never did find out what the one guy thought of me but assume he wasn't interested. The one guy who was interested I did go on a date with and thought he was a nice guy but no chemistry. He did eventually marry someone.
I would say give the person who's interested in you a chance (unless you have some other decent reason not to) by dating them. But that's only if you have the self-discipline to ensure you do not take it to another level any time soon. You should only become sexually active or commit to a relationship with this person if and when you feel confident you could be happy with them for the rest of your life. You are only dating them to find out just how compatible you are, as this should be the natural understanding of the dating game in the first place.
If you think you wouldn't be able to stop yourself from jumping into bed and/or a committed relationship with them within the first week of dating, you should pass at least for the time being.
I think I would be estatic that someone finds me interesting.
Thanks, I thought this would be an interesting topic because this has to happen quite often. I suppose the closest many probably come to this is online dating, that seems to be common.
If you have someone you love who loves you then there is no real reason to date anyone else especially if you have already decided that you are going to get married even though there has been no proposal or engagement ring yet.
It really is not very Catholic like to be voluntarily bethrothed to one man and still seek the attention of other men.
If you have someone you love who loves you then there is no real reason to date anyone else especially if you have already decided that you are going to get married even though there has been no proposal or engagement ring yet.
It really is not very Catholic like to be voluntarily bethrothed to one man and still seek the attention of other men.
This isn't about me at all, I just thought this topic is something that popped in my head.
If you are already committed then love the one you're with. If you are single, then wait until you fall in love.
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