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I think many in this thread are confusing 'macho' with 'masculine'. Women roll their eyes at macho but tend to prefer masculine. Macho is being obsessed with beer and sports, "carrying" tight affliction shirts, riding around on loud motorcycles, grunting loudly in the gym, and bragging about the size of one's genitals. Masculinity, in my opinion, is being resourceful, responsible, facing challenges rather than giving up, sticking up for the underdog, and basing decisions on logic rather than fear. I don't think there is any reason why a poet or a loving father would not be considered masculine. To me, 'girly' calls forth images of someone who isn't willing to get their hands (literally or figuratively) dirty, who backs down from adversity, and who is unwilling to accept responsibilities. I don't know many women who are interested in this type of man.
I think they are one in the same buddy. I don't think ANYONE is trying to impress anyone. You're just being yourself. Too bad if people are offended and butthurt about it. The guy who is sure AIN'T manly at all...... Bet he got his butt kicked daily at school and gets bullied at work now.
Where do you live, dude? Hit the world music concerts, astronomy clubs, garden classes at your local gardening center. Blues clubs and other music scenes. You haven't thought of this stuff yourself?
Ok...so I kind of take that statement back a little.
The other night there was this jock "goochie" guy all smurfed up at the restaurant in a tight fitting shirt. The whole time while waiting all he did was flex his chest and muscles at the crowd.
Little did he know there was two armed former U.S. Marines and one armed former U.S. Army VETs sitting right next to him.....lol lol
Ha. Williamsburg is far more hipster than nerdy, though I realize there's some significant overlap of those groups.
In general I'd say going to any urban area with a highly educated populace, or even a college town, would be a good approach, though, if the OP isn't already in such a place.
Oops, I didn't see this until now. Having a personality disorder is much different than just being nerdy. Are you in therapy?
Yes. In therapy. But my personality "disorders" are one aspect of my nerdiness. Back in the day, people with personality disorders were considered "eccentric" rather than sick. Being someone with a personality disorder, that's the way I see it. And that's actually the way my therapists have seen it too.
Yes. In therapy. But my personality "disorders" are one aspect of my nerdiness. Back in the day, people with personality disorders were considered "eccentric" rather than sick. Being someone with a personality disorder, that's the way I see it. And that's actually the way my therapists have seen it too.
Who's telling you that you have a "personality disorder"? Sounds like people trying to make you into something you are not and tell you how to live your life. Don't worry buddy, the road goes both ways on that. Look at it this way....the nerdy guys do their own thing. They shouldn't let someone (namely a woman) control them and transform them into something they are not. The manly men sure don't let them. That guy in "the middle" who does is the last thing from "manly" as I could think of. Be yourself and stop worrying what other people think. You're a man then...
I think many in this thread are confusing 'macho' with 'masculine'. Women roll their eyes at macho but tend to prefer masculine. Macho is being obsessed with beer and sports, "carrying" tight affliction shirts, riding around on loud motorcycles, grunting loudly in the gym, and bragging about the size of one's genitals. Masculinity, in my opinion, is being resourceful, responsible, facing challenges rather than giving up, sticking up for the underdog, and basing decisions on logic rather than fear. I don't think there is any reason why a poet or a loving father would not be considered masculine. To me, 'girly' calls forth images of someone who isn't willing to get their hands (literally or figuratively) dirty, who backs down from adversity, and who is unwilling to accept responsibilities. I don't know many women who are interested in this type of man.
In some ways, I fit that description of girly. In some ways I don't. It depends on what kind of adversity and what kind of responsibilities. I certainly have my limits in terms of resourcefulness & responsibility, and have lazy tendencies.
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