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Finally. A nice post! Did you let your wife know how you feel? I think you are both lucky to have each other. You have what many of us have looked for.
My brother and sister in law are like this. They both bicker constantly. They are both materialistic. Many fights of who is paying for what. Sometimes I'm shocked by my brother because this wasn't how my siblings were raised. My mom and dad considered it their money jointly. They were a team. This is how I hope I will be too.
Is it that she truly respects you..or is it that she is just a 'submissive' type woman? I ask because you say you are 'less passive' and there would be an 'argument' if she did that to you. Just wondering if you had that. "aint no woman gonna disrespect me" chest thumping thing going on. And so no woman could dare say a word to u even if she was right about something.
However, if its NOT like that, and you guys are just more calm and able to talk respectfully and calmly to each other and you BOTH can express yourselves freely..then kudos to you and her. That can be truly hard to find.
Is it that she truly respects you..or is it that she is just a 'submissive' type woman? I ask because you say you are 'less passive' and there would be an 'argument' if she did that to you. Just wondering if you had that. "aint no woman gonna disrespect me" chest thumping thing going on. And so no woman could dare say a word to u even if she was right about something.
However, if its NOT like that, and you guys are just more calm and able to talk respectfully and calmly to each other and you BOTH can express yourselves freely..then kudos to you and her. That can be truly hard to find.
Make no mistake, my wife can be a complete fire cracker if she feels she needs to be. Furthermore, I am far from the chest thumper you've described; however, I also am human and really don't like it if my wife (or anyone, really) is being disrespectful unprovoked. I think we truly do have a healthy mutual respect for each other. I don't intimidate my wife into never disagreeing with me and she has proven time and time again that she is a smart, intelligent and supportive partner for me.
I can see why you asked the question. I do know some guys who fit the description in your first paragraph. Ugh. That's a topic for another thread someday.
Respect is a prime ingredient to love. If there's no respect, there's no love.
Of course I'm stating this based on my own feelings, but I don't see how it can be any other way. You can respect someone without loving them, but I don't think you can love someone without respecting them.
Sometimes, I forget how awesome my husband is. But then I see him with the kids or we wash dishes together and I see why he's so awesome. I get where you're coming from OP.
I think I've spoken very positively about my wife here on the forum. I suppose I'm bragging a bit, but when you've got something good you like talking about it, right? And sometimes you see or experience things that completely reinforce how good you have it. I already know I'm onto a good thing with my wife, but sometimes I forget just how good I have it. Then I get little reminders.
For the last week, my wife and I have had some house guests. They're very good people and in no way do I wish for this to be misconstrued as a complaint. They are as good a house guest as you could ask for. But when you live closely with others for an extended period of time, or even as short as a week, you pick up on nuances that you would otherwise not notice.
This family is in a transitional period in their lives. They are on the brink of buying a new home, and it could be going a little more smoothly for them. I can appreciate her frustration because my wife and I went through the same thing last fall. But what blows me away is how much she marginalizes her husband. She also becomes extremely irritable with him over the smallest things. Usually this happens as a result of frustration due to the search for a house, but there are other examples, too. While the husband is the primary bread-winner in their family, the wife is the one who has the strong personality. He is passive, though certainly not a floor mat. It's just their dynamic.
Yesterday my wife and I were outside doing some yard work. Our guests were tending to their housing search. I mentioned to my wife how glad I am that she does not talk to me the way our friend talks to her husband. I'm decisively less passive than our friend, so if my wife talked to me like that it would likely result in an argument. But the point is, she doesn't.
I realize I am comparing my family dynamic to someone else's which is not necessarily an apples to apples comparison. But if I had to sum it up, I would definitely say my wife respects me much more than our friend respects her husband. That is the perception from where I sit, though I acknowledge I am probably not seeing their whole picture. Still I can't help but have a renewed sense of gratitude with the wife I have.
Thank you for this nice post. It's so nice for you to acknowledge your blessing. Hopefully, you make sure to tell her, too. It never made sense to me, the ones who are rude and disrespectful to each other. I can't understand why you'd do that to someone or stay with someone who was always disrespectful to you.
I would also add that your wife is a lucky woman to have a husband that takes the time to appreciate her. That appreciation and verbal confirmation is worth more then flowers or empty compliments.
You are so right
Men - take note!
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Its nice you appreciate your wife now that you have her 
It never made sense to me, the ones who are rude and disrespectful to each other. I can't understand why you'd do that to someone or stay with someone who was always disrespectful to you.
