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start going to the gym and lift weights. Also, relax more, stop caring so much. you should care less but not be careless. The more relaxed you are about the situation, the easier it is.
I do not have time to work out but i will try to relax more i would help if i go more sleep only getting 3 hours as of late.
Somebody's really filled your head with a crile of pap. Women who care about their guy don't judge him. If you want to be judged, have sex with someone you don't care about. If you want to be loved, find a girl you could have a meaningful relationship with. You won't have performance anxiety. Nature will take over. Even if you do have a problem, she'll be ok with it. Anyone who would have a stupid rule like 3 strikes your out would be the wrong kind of girl.
Jeez. It's all in your head. Stop worrying, go out and find a great girl.
if it was only that simple it would be no problem.
I know I have a problem with my self esteem and am looking at getting help. I would be nice to get to what is bugging me and talk to a counselor or therapist . I just hope i do not cry or any thing I want to be loved but i have to love myself first .
If you don't cry at therapy, you are doing it wrong and your therapist will worry about you . Crying is the first step in healing. (All men cry, BTW, and mostly not in therapy . They only pretend that they don't.)
If you don't cry at therapy, you are doing it wrong and your therapist will worry about you . Crying is the first step in healing. (All men cry, BTW, and mostly not in therapy . They only pretend that they don't.)
I know i will I just hate being a sensitive guy some times.
I know i will I just hate being a sensitive guy some times.
Women want sensitive guys!
I think part of your problem is that you don't know any women and so you have really weird ideas about what women want in a bf .
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that is why i said FWB we can both use each other for are own needs.
You know, I think you could do pretty well if you put an ad on craigslist (maybe even okcupid) that said you want an ongoing FWB relationship so that you can learn advanced sexual skills to please a woman. That sounds way more appealing than all the ads where guys talk about what pleases them.
I also strongly recommend taking some tantra workshops, stuff like that. There is no actual sex involved, but you will learn everything you need to know to be a great lover.
I do not have time to work out but i will try to relax more i would help if i go more sleep only getting 3 hours as of late.
ah, well relax more as in just get yourself to come down a level. stop worrying/panicking (if thats what you do, i know thats what i do) and just do it. Like Nike's trademark says "Just do it" somethings like casual sex, or other activities do not come naturally to us and we have to become an enabler to get us to adjust to it. (Just make sure you're partner is clean... yeah... dont want to promote you to do something, but get a gift that keeps on giving in return). And if you can't adjust after a while, leave it. Stop trying to do it and say, "i couldn't do it, it's just not for me." But if you don't try to get your body to relax and turn off the switch in your head that causes you to "excite" yourself and psych yourself out of it because of performance, stop and tell your partner you cant.
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. Crying is the first step in healing. (All men cry, BTW, and mostly not in therapy 
