how to push yourself to get over the precondition guilt of casual sex and just do it?

[NilaJones]

How are you doing with the search for a therapist?

[krieger00]

Originally Posted by NilaJones

How are you doing with the search for a therapist?

got a few in mind and finding time set up an appointment.

[NilaJones]

Good job .

[dave nz]

Originally Posted by krieger00

I just worry if she will not understand or be cool with me lack of partners.

Nahh shes unlikely to care about that. Also, look at it this way, everyone has to start somewhere.
If the first girl, or first few girls you have sex with, the relationships don't work out. You have gained experience, knowledge and skills on how to please them and yourself sexually. So you are in a better position for when you move on to the next.

[Beacon of Truth]

Originally Posted by krieger00

I just do not want to have performance anxiety if i really liked a girl . Some woman have a 3 strikes your out rule if a guy is bad in bed.

Woman judge guys so i do not want her to do that with me if she asked how many woman have you had sex with and yes woman around her ask. If i say one she think that something is wrong with me . On the other hand if i say 3 or 5 she be like ok he is normal .

If its meant to be its meant to be. If you don't click sexually with a girl, chances are you weren't meant to be together. However when you do click with someone the physical stuff just happens on its own. Ruth is right don't overthink it.