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I've been doing that for 2 months now and none of them know each other. To be honest, I like that and want to keep it that way.
One of my dates has recently asked me about being his gf and I declined it, said I'll think about it. I don't want to because then that would be cheating and I wouldn't want that type of reputation nor feel responsible for hurting someone. I don't want to commit; I just want to have fun without them knowing this.
The only thing is it's getting a bit harder to keep in track. I have to sometimes invent an excuse when setting up a date with one of them and arrange it somewhere else, that way they don't bump into each other by accident.
I've been doing that for 2 months now and none of them know each other. To be honest, I like that and want to keep it that way.
One of my dates has recently asked me about being his gf and I declined it, said I'll think about it. I don't want to because then that would be cheating and I wouldn't want that type of reputation nor feel responsible for hurting someone. I don't want to commit; I just want to have fun without them knowing this.
The only thing is it's getting a bit harder to keep in track. I have to sometimes invent an excuse when setting up a date with one of them and arrange it somewhere else, that way they don't bump into each other by accident.
Listen, if you are dating more than one person and none of them know it, you are already "cheating." That is to say, you are already practicing deception. I bet the only reason you want to "keep it that way" is because you know all hell would break loose if these guys knew about each other.
You are entitled to date more than one person if you like. But they have a right to know what the heck is going on. If they don't, you are taking away their right to choose.
bet the only reason you want to "keep it that way" is because you know all hell would break loose if these guys knew about each other.
You're right, my fun would probably end and that would suck. I guess I like the thrill of this.
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Originally Posted by RogersParkGuy
You are entitled to date more than one person if you like. But they have a right to know what the heck is going on. If they don't, you are taking away their right to choose.
If I tell them know, they would probably not want to keep dating me and I don't want to drop either of them. But will they really find out about this?
No, it's not and one time I accidentally confused guy 1 for guy 3. I quickly invented an excuse and told him it was some cousin I was expecting a call from and kind of elaborated it.
I've been doing that for 2 months now and none of them know each other. To be honest, I like that and want to keep it that way.
One of my dates has recently asked me about being his gf and I declined it, said I'll think about it. I don't want to because then that would be cheating and I wouldn't want that type of reputation nor feel responsible for hurting someone. I don't want to commit; I just want to have fun without them knowing this.
The only thing is it's getting a bit harder to keep in track. I have to sometimes invent an excuse when setting up a date with one of them and arrange it somewhere else, that way they don't bump into each other by accident.
So basically, you are lieing to three guys about what you are doing.
I would say then that yes, what you are doing is wrong and bad.
If you not exclusive, there's technically wrong with dating more than one person. But lieing to cover it up? That is wrong.
Ideally, you admit to all three guys you are seeing other people so at least they know the situation. 2 months into one guy is getting to be a while to date multiple people, unless a casual relationship has been predefined.
Such is life.
If I tell them know, they would probably not want to keep dating me and I don't want to drop either of them. But will they really find out about this?
Are you a sociopath? Do you not understand that not everything is about you and your fun? Do you understand that you have to respect other people's rights, even if that doesn't benefit you? Jesus H. Christ, who raised you?
There's nothing wrong with dating multiple people if you are single, but the way you worded this it is not clear if all the guys know you are not seeing them exclusively.
Do they each think that you're not officially bf/gf but you're not seeing anyone else either? If so, it's probably worth dropping during a conversation that you see other people. You don't need to go into detail, but you should be above board about it. Technically you don't owe anyone any explanations of you are not exclusive but IMO it's better to be safe than sorry.
BTW, men get in trouble with this all the time. This is how women end up crying, and the guy is all "I never said I was your boyfriend!" LOL. Don't play with people's emotions. Be upfront!
There's nothing wrong with dating multiple people if you are single, but the way you worded this it is not clear if all the guys know you are not seeing them exclusively.
Do they each think that you're not officially bf/gf but you're not seeing anyone else either? If so, it's probably worth dropping during a conversation that you see other people. You don't need to go into detail, but you should be above board about it. Technically you don't owe anyone any explanations of you are not exclusive but IMO it's better to be safe than sorry.
BTW, men get in trouble with this all the time. This is how women end up crying, and the guy is all "I never said I was your boyfriend!" LOL. Don't play with people's emotions. Be upfront!
Thank you!
The thing you have to remember is that most people will assume you are exclusive unless you state otherwise. Frankly, I think most people know that. This OP is either a fake or a total narcissist.
So basically, you are lieing to three guys about what you are doing.
I would say then that yes, what you are doing is wrong and bad.
If you not exclusive, there's technically wrong with dating more than one person. But lieing to cover it up? That is wrong.
I think I got a bit carried away and the days went by quickly and I would forget to tell them I'm seeing someone else. I was going to tell them last month but forgot.
I guess I should inform them and hopefully they still want to see me but I don't know. The one that asked me to be his gf will sure be turned off completely.
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