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In my opinion, anyone mentally agile enough to juggle three relationships at the same time wouldn't need to resort to asking for permission on an internet forum.
It certainly is a blast dating multiple people isn't it? I don't blame you in the slightest. Try not to add anymore though, there were times times when I would be dating 6 women at a time and if you have a full-time job that can be damn near impossible.
It's really quite simple to ensure they never find out about eachother, just make sure that you keep telling them what they want to hear and never allow them to see your phone for any reason.
Wow you beat me. How you manage it with 6 at once? I thought it was already hard enough with 3 but 6 would be even more difficult.
Wow you beat me. How you manage it with 6 at once? I thought it was already hard enough with 3 but 6 would be even more difficult.
It was pretty easy since I had a lot more time back then. My only responsibility was school and my schedule was flexible as can be, so I was able to chill with women at various different times of the day. Thanks to that extra time, I was able to strategically date women that lived in different parts in the city, so getting caught up was damn near impossible.
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I'm sorry, but that is not the cultural norm. I am not talking about how it should be, but how it is. We have to live in the world as it is, not as we wish it was.
It is everywhere I have lived. Unless you have the conversation agreeing to exclusivity, you're not exclusive. Maybe you're not in the U.S.? Or you're in a Southern state? It may be different there, I don't know.
It is everywhere I have lived. Unless you have the conversation agreeing to exclusivity, you're not exclusive. Maybe you're not in the U.S.? Or you're in a Southern state? It may be different there, I don't know.
I am in the US, in Chicago, the 3rd largest city in the country. No, I am not in some backwater.
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Well, I've lived in Chicago (early 30s) and I assure you, just because you went on a few dates with someone over weeks or a few months, there was zero assuming that you were exclusive. This was early 00s, not that long ago. Quite the opposite, Chicago was big into people dating around A LOT.
I moved there from Madison and being a smaller town people got exclusive quicker, but even then, it was never assumed.
It was pretty easy since I had a lot more time back then. My only responsibility was school and my schedule was flexible as can be, so I was able to chill with women at various different times of the day. Thanks to that extra time, I was able to strategically date women that lived in different parts in the city, so getting caught up was damn near impossible.
Good times.
Sounds like too much work to me. I can't be bothered with consulting a spreadsheet to keep track like this.
Well, I've lived in Chicago (early 30s) and I assure you, just because you went on a few dates with someone over weeks or a few months, there was zero assuming that you were exclusive. This was early 00s, not that long ago. Quite the opposite, Chicago was big into people dating around A LOT.
I moved there from Madison and being a smaller town people got exclusive quicker, but even then, it was never assumed.
Well, what can I say? You live in a charmed word. I live in a mundane one.
You are entitled to date more than one person if you like. But they have a right to know what the heck is going on. If they don't, you are taking away their right to choose.
That's a "right" that, IMO, doesn't exist. Just because many people might not want to date you if they knew something about you doesn't mean you're obligated to disclose that information. If things were different, they wouldn't be the same.
If you are having sex with more than one, then it would be unethical to expose any others to potential STIs without their knowledge and consent and they need to be informed
If you practice safe sex, I don't think the degree of risk is so great that you need to inform them. Anyone who has sex runs SOME danger of an STD. If you actually have a chronic STD, like HIV or herpes, then I'd agree you need to tell them about that.
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