I Honestly Don't Know How I Am Ever Going To Meet Someone (female, family)
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I just don't see it. I don't encounter single women in my day to day lifestyle outside of the cold approach option (which is a horrible option). I don't meet women through friends or family (even though I go out and socialize in many different environments with many different people). I don't meet women through work or any of my hobbies. I honestly don't know what to do. I cannot seem to force myself to do the dreaded cold approach as all I imagine is going up to the girl and getting a nasty rejection (talking to a couple girls at a bar and hearing that "we are just here to have fun with our friends, please go away").
Is there any guy out there who has ever met his girlfriend someway outside of the old "friends/school/work" option that everybody seems to meet their partner? Do girls ever actually go out to meet a guy? It seems like 50% of girls go out in the night scene (lounges/bars/etc...) with their boyfriends and the other 50% go out to hang out with their lady friends all night
I don't think there's anything wrong with me. I can keep a conversation with most people fine. I'm friendly and respectful. All the female acquaintances I have in my real life (a few female co workers, a couple friends, friend's girlfriends) all like me quite a bit. I don't know why I find dating to be so difficult
I think that you are being real and have thought about this a lot more than anyone here has, and know your situation better than anyone here does, so ignore the dismissive or harsh replies. The only suggestion I can think of is to take up new hobbies that are more likely to involve women, especially the single kind.
Getting out more in general may help too.
And, for the record, I know several couples who met in a bar.
You have to admit lots of women are hypocritical about rejection. They act like it's nothing to worry about and men are cowards for not enjoying rejection yet they won't even say "Hi" to a guy they have a crush on because they hate rejection so much
Why does this even matter? Only way I can even see this relating to your problem is you seem to be expecting them to by not doing anything.
Why not try one of the internet dating services. Back in my day, we had a similar service, but it was done by US mail----and I met some nice girls. Also, in my day, there was the original TGIF on 61st street that was a spot to meet girls, but the pick up scene today is a lot different.
Maybe you're not as great as you think you are? At some point, you have to accept you are the problem.
I never said I'm perfect, but is dating really reserved for people who are? I know guys with cute girlfriends who are unemployed, broke, no college degrees, don't work out, don't take care of themselves, have terrible character flaws (known cheaters in the past), etc...
I met a guy 2 weeks ago who had a gorgeous half Asian girlfriend who was overweight, on disability, lived in his parent's basement at 27 and they were about to get married. Dead serious
What am I really lacking? I have never had problem making friends, I get along great with the women in my life who are platonic relationships (I've had a few female friends who all really loved me), I take care of myself and always look good, I make good money and have my own place. I don't understand what I'm really lacking where I am not worthy of being loved
I never said I'm perfect, but is dating really reserved for people who are? I know guys with cute girlfriends who are unemployed, broke, no college degrees, don't work out, don't take care of themselves, have terrible character flaws (known cheaters in the past), etc...
I met a guy 2 weeks ago who had a gorgeous half Asian girlfriend who was overweight, on disability, lived in his parent's basement at 27 and they were about to get married. Dead serious
What am I really lacking? I have never had problem making friends, I get along great with the women in my life who are platonic relationships (I've had a few female friends who all really loved me), I take care of myself and always look good, I make good money and have my own place. I don't understand what I'm really lacking where I am not worthy of being loved
Plus, you are "The Nicest Guy in the World." You were especially compassionate to your FWB that you treated like a piece of trash when you decided she wasn't hot enough for you.
I never said I'm perfect, but is dating really reserved for people who are? I know guys with cute girlfriends who are unemployed, broke, no college degrees, don't work out, don't take care of themselves, have terrible character flaws (known cheaters in the past), etc...
I met a guy 2 weeks ago who had a gorgeous half Asian girlfriend who was overweight, on disability, lived in his parent's basement at 27 and they were about to get married. Dead serious
What am I really lacking? I have never had problem making friends, I get along great with the women in my life who are platonic relationships (I've had a few female friends who all really loved me), I take care of myself and always look good, I make good money and have my own place. I don't understand what I'm really lacking where I am not worthy of being loved
Bingo.
THERE'S your problem.
Your core belief that you are "not worthy" is being telegraphed out for the whole world to see.
When you tell others that, they tend to believe you
Your core belief that you are "not worthy" is being telegraphed out for the whole world to see.
When you tell others that, they tend to believe you
I DON'T believe that I'm not worthy though. Joecollege was making it seem like I'm not worthy
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