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I am in my final semester of college and the truth is I am going to finish college as a virgin. It is something that slowly picks away at your self-esteem and will probably haunt me for the rest of my life but there is little I can do. Now I believe this has to do with me spending my first year at a community college due to my parents wanting me to stay near home for my first year of college so I don't get in trouble. After that 1st year I transferred to my university (an SEC school) and ever since then I had problems fitting in. Seemed like most people got the partying and sex out of the way their freshman year and that was also the time they formed their closest bonds due to living together. I lived off campus the moment I got here and regret most of it.
At first I thought it was my looks but I have been called cute a few times. I was homeschooled so I do lack some of the social skills normal kids had growing up but I have been pretty outgoing in college. The few parties I was invited to I went to. Got along with the guys at the parties but the girls just gave me the disgusted look and tried to avoid me for some reason.
Another thing that could be the case is that I am a Vietnamese heritage male (born in California but raised in Kentucky) that goes to an SEC school. Even though I am 6"2 and have no foreign accent, a few girls have told me I am not their type.
I didn't want it to be this way but seems like so many circumstances were out of my control. Right now I have accepted that I will graduate college as a virgin and this will probably haunt me for the rest of my life. So I want to know, how do I learn to cope with this?
Hello there. Chao Chu!
Who says there has to be a singular rule where you have to accomplish losing your virginity upon graduation?
Losing one's virginity is not right of passage, nor is it indicative of manhood, value or worth.
Perhaps you haven't found the crowd of girls who are similar to you and your outlook on life, but I see your being a virgin as a very respectable quality to have. Nothing to shame yourself over.
On top of that, some people lose their virginity's in college in very sad/pathetic ways, and it gets worse.
Least your first experience can be quite memorable and meaningful, and not based on conformity or cliche.
kat949's right....what's the big deal anyways. Why is it that college and sex seemed to have somehow become intertwined.
One really has NOTHING to do with the other.
So just quit thinking that it does, and celebrate graduating...now that's something to be proud of.
Stay focused on the dollar signs OP.
Love will come along later in life or it won't.
I myself am of Asian descent and blow at both academics and the dating field(probably because I'm the minority that would honestly prefer a woman that is educated and makes more than me. Call it reverse dominance I guess)
Whatever happens, it's better to do much damage and cause much mayhem in life and leave some kind of mark.
You can't take it with you when it's all over any way, so might as well make a name for yourself any which way you can.
You should be happy OP. I am 23 and everytime I get on Facebook somebody is having a baby and none of them were planned. Be happy you don't have any babies right now.
E-S-C-O-R-T. Give a look in the local craigslist, search around and you can find 'em. Get a good one, tell 'em you're a virgin and go have fun. Quit worrying, and get laid. Good grief.
E-S-C-O-R-T. Give a look in the local craigslist, search around and you can find 'em. Get a good one, tell 'em you're a virgin and go have fun. Quit worrying, and get laid. Good grief.
Sure as long as he later on comes across that ideal woman he's been waiting for and is prepare that she might not like that past and reject him for that; then he would need to find a tolerant woman that is into ''the past is the past'' mantra. Some people will judge you for your past whether you're a good person or not. That's what they do on job interviews too.
If I ever come across a man that told me he had to pay an escort to lose his virginity, he loses value to me right away. Nothing impressive about going that low.
I guess the only possible way it could haunt you is that once you lose that viginity, you're gonna comeback with a vengence and become big time player.. Don't let that be you.
Count yourself a gem, if you need some inspirations watch the movie 40yo Virgin.
Somebody sounds like he is trying way too hard and putting way too much thought into things. Forget about losing your virginity and just go meet some girls. Eventually things will fall into place.
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