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I am in my final semester of college and the truth is I am going to finish college as a virgin. It is something that slowly picks away at your self-esteem and will probably haunt me for the rest of my life but there is little I can do. Now I believe this has to do with me spending my first year at a community college due to my parents wanting me to stay near home for my first year of college so I don't get in trouble. After that 1st year I transferred to my university (an SEC school) and ever since then I had problems fitting in. Seemed like most people got the partying and sex out of the way their freshman year and that was also the time they formed their closest bonds due to living together. I lived off campus the moment I got here and regret most of it.
At first I thought it was my looks but I have been called cute a few times. I was homeschooled so I do lack some of the social skills normal kids had growing up but I have been pretty outgoing in college. The few parties I was invited to I went to. Got along with the guys at the parties but the girls just gave me the disgusted look and tried to avoid me for some reason.
Another thing that could be the case is that I am a Vietnamese heritage male (born in California but raised in Kentucky) that goes to an SEC school. Even though I am 6"2 and have no foreign accent, a few girls have told me I am not their type.
I didn't want it to be this way but seems like so many circumstances were out of my control. Right now I have accepted that I will graduate college as a virgin and this will probably haunt me for the rest of my life. So I want to know, how do I learn to cope with this?
I am in my final semester of college and the truth is I am going to finish college as a virgin. It is something that slowly picks away at your self-esteem and will probably haunt me for the rest of my life but there is little I can do.
And this is a tragedy why? I would think graduating college with as high honors as possible would be paramount rather than fussing over your virginity to an extent that you feel it will haunt you for the rest of your life ...
Hm... do you see virginity as some sort of burden you need to relieve yourself of by means of acquiring a willing female instrument?
It doesn't sound like you are ready yet for a mature sexual relationship or that you have anything to offer another person. I come to this conclusion based on the complete absence of anyone other than yourself mentioned in your post.
To answer your question about how to cope: try to be less narcissistic and more empathic.
And this is a tragedy why? I would think graduating college with as high honors as possible would be paramount rather than fussing over your virginity to an extent that you feel it will haunt you for the rest of your life ...
Exactly. It can "haunt" you only if you let it. Do you really think you're alone, some kind of freak? There are plenty of guys (as well as women) in your situation. It's not a big deal. Get on with your life. And stop beating yourself up. You're your own worst enemy. It's all in your mind.
Oh the horror, I'm a virgin and it's the worst thing that for me. LOL
Cheer up, some of us do find male virginity cool (I do). You really think we like men who have slept around with 50-100 women?? I only have two words for that: STD, damaged.
If you're just going to lose it just to get rid of it ok then do it and you'll just become another one of the many players; nothing special to that at all.
BTW, what are your plans for after graduation? Do you have any job prospects lined up (that's kind of more important to worry about, don't you think?) Any plans for grad school?
Oh the horror, I'm a virgin and it's the worst thing that for me. LOL
Cheer up, some of us do find male virginity cool (I do). You really think we like men who have slept around with 50-100 women?? I only have two words for that: STD, damaged.
Yes, because there is nothing healthy in between.
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