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Normally I wouldnt hv messged him..the reason I did is because a couple of people said he was trying to make me jealous..like he was playing games..as extreme as it was. So he would win IF i didnt act like everything was fine...as it would imply that it got to me.
Basically this was one isolated incident (and in the past he's admitted to trying to mke me jealous)..after a couple of months of him asking me out and me saying I was busy or didnt hv the time.mybe he felt rejected I dont know
Just because a couple of other people said does not mean it is true.
Rely on your own gut feelings and judgement not the rumors about "he said/she said".
If these couple other people are telling you this what do you think they are telling him?
What other people say does not matter, what matters are his words and actions.
The fact that you want to appear completely disgusted with the entire situation is in complete contrast to the fact that you initiated contact with him.
hes actually said some pretty intense things about me...like about how he feels about me.
He thinks I push him away funnily enough lol...and has implied tht he has an emotional connection to me..and he keeps calling me special...
But then the stupid stuff he said literally came out of nowhere..and its like someone else talking
Now this is a bit clearer. You are pushing him away and no it's not funny. He put himself out there emotionally to let you know how he feels about you, drops a hint about Valentines Day and asked you out but you continue to waiver on what to do. He's saying these thing to elicit some sort of emotion from you by talking about other women, he's trying to figure out where he stands with you. You should tell him how you feel or he will start to pull away and as soon as he's okay with the idea, he'll disappear again but he'll probably leave permanently.
My take: he got fed up with you putting him off about dinner, and then laughing at him at the wrong time, and then you didn't believe him when he said he was thinking of you when he had the car accident. So he just blurted a bunch of stuff out, because he lost patience with you.
He finally opened up to you--a few times, in fact--and you trashed his making himself emotionally open and vulnerable to you. So he showed you he didn't need you (whether it was true or not).
Do you want to date this guy or don't you? You're sending him a LOT of mixed signals, and mostly not good ones. Too many games, girl!
I kno i kno, I think what he wants from me now is to either meet up with him at least ONCE and to see how things go or else he will not bother and stay away. I feel lik thats what hes doing now.
I know i shouldnt have laughed but I cant distinguish as to whether or not he is meaning what he says about feeling down about not having a girl or he is just trying to find yet another way to get me to see him by making me feel guilty or something.
He does say he misses me all the time and he thinks about me a lot, but again i'm just thinking is he saying those things in order for me to take action i.e manipulation or does he really feel this way?? How am i going to know?
Now this is a bit clearer. You are pushing him away and no it's not funny. He put himself out there emotionally to let you know how he feels about you, drops a hint about Valentines Day and asked you out but you continue to waiver on what to do. He's saying these thing to elicit some sort of emotion from you by talking about other women, he's trying to figure out where he stands with you. You should tell him how you feel or he will start to pull away and as soon as he's okay with the idea, he'll disappear again but he'll probably leave permanently.
I just end up saying the opposite of what I should as I find I can't open up my emotions to him. I find it embarassing or something.
Maybe he was trying to figure out where he stands and instead i guessed that maybe he was doing tht but got annoyed at him nonetheless, hid that fact and pretended I had to get off the phone as someone else was calling me. Maybe he took that as I dont care about him. As after that he hasn't been in contact at all.
. About ten minutes after telling me that, he said the girl who was in the car which bumped in to his,was so "hot and fit". He then said that maybe he should call her and ask her to pay him back for the damages to his car in OTHER WAYS..he meant sexually. He was being a lot more explicit than I am right now though..the words he was using are far too rude.
He then said that he would rather use the money she owes him to hire women on the street :O i.e the P word..and watch them do things to each other..and join in with them too.
I couldn't believe what I was hearing so i pretty much ended the convo ..
And thus should have ended contact and any further thoughts of him.
I mean, really, now. Ew. Just ew. Why would you even care what such a creepy pig wants or thinks? Grab a hold of your self-respect and move on.
And thus should have ended contact and any further thoughts of him.
I mean, really, now. Ew. Just ew. Why would you even care what such a creepy pig wants or thinks? Grab a hold of your self-respect and move on.
Lol. I have plenty of self respect dont get that twisted, otherwise I wouldnt be so cautious and judge him and complain about every little thing.
The thing is I know him quite well and i'v known him for a good few years, and when he has talked about other women he even admitted it was to get me mad or make me jealous. I assumed it was the case this time, but because he's been sincere about how he feels about me I thought i would give him the benefit of the doubt, doesn't mean im not disappointed in what he said though. But I know for a fact its all talk and he wouldnt do any of it.
Lol. I have plenty of self respect dont get that twisted, otherwise I wouldnt be so cautious and judge him and complain about every little thing.
The thing is I know him quite well and i'v known him for a good few years, and when he has talked about other women he even admitted it was to get me mad or make me jealous. I assumed it was the case this time, but because he's been sincere about how he feels about me I thought i would give him the benefit of the doubt, doesn't mean im not disappointed in what he said though. But I know for a fact its all talk and he wouldnt do any of it.
Oh yeah, sign me up for a guy that intentionally tries to make me mad or jealous. What a charmer he is, I can't wait to meet him..........gak
It sounds like you two have some weird communication issues, or some drama going on, or something. Frankly, it sounds like you two don't click, you don't work well together. You might not be right for each other, just from what you've posted here.
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