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Old 05-01-2014, 02:43 PM
 
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No, it isn't stupid to tell the abused, who is surviving by staying high, to get help. Both need help, obviously. But you're clearly miserable. If you want to live the rest of your life that way, it's your choice. Just be aware that you do have a choice.

Think about it this way. Your mother is still controlling your life. Through the trauma she caused, your lack of relationship success, the drug use, the anger, are her legacy. She'll haunt you this way for the rest of your life unless you get help to heal from the trauma. Do you want to give her that power? You already have. But you can change that.
My mother doesn't hold any power over me she fears me and she should but thats a story im not going to get into.
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Old 05-01-2014, 02:45 PM
 
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Once again, I'm disturbed by the way you talk about the women you date. It's like, "Yeah, they may be fat and unattractive, but at least that's better than my hand!" I'm sure you're not the only man who feels this way, but I just feel bad for these women.
Women do the same thing.
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Old 05-01-2014, 02:48 PM
 
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The only way to succeed at the game the OP is describing, is to not play.

The very best thing for OP to do is to close the book on the dating/mating/relating game. It's the only way to win.
I don`t know about winning more like accepting defeat.
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Old 05-01-2014, 02:51 PM
 
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My mother doesn't hold any power over me she fears me and she should but thats a story im not going to get into.
Yes, she does. She has the power to make you angry, even when she's not present. She has the power to cause you to turn to drugs to deaden your emotional pain. And you don't think your difficulties in relating to women are rooted in your issues with your mom?
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Old 05-01-2014, 02:58 PM
 
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Yes, she does. She has the power to make you angry, even when she's not present. She has the power to cause you to turn to drugs to deaden your emotional pain. And you don't think your difficulties in relating to women are rooted in your issues with your mom?
Look I have not talked to my mother since I was seventeen and chocked her for calling the police on me for moving. That ***** is so terrified of me I can`t go to any family get togethers oh well **** em all.
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Old 05-01-2014, 03:10 PM
 
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Look I have not talked to my mother since I was seventeen and chocked her for calling the police on me for moving. That ***** is so terrified of me I can`t go to any family get togethers oh well **** em all.
But she lives in your mind, where she's doing a real number on you.
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Old 05-01-2014, 03:18 PM
 
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I'm with you, OP. I'm a resolved single and will never attempt to date again. I'd rather be alone. That's no great loss to women out there. I'm certainly not a catch.
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Old 05-01-2014, 03:26 PM
 
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Look I have not talked to my mother since I was seventeen and chocked her for calling the police on me for moving. That ***** is so terrified of me I can`t go to any family get togethers oh well **** em all.
This isn't normal, man. This is why you need help. If you have health insurance through your job, mental health might be covered. Check it out, and get an evaluation. It doesn't mean you have to follow through, just get checked out.
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Old 05-01-2014, 03:28 PM
 
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But she lives in your mind, where she's doing a real number on you.
The only one who can harm me is me.
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Old 05-01-2014, 03:30 PM
 
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This isn't normal, man. This is why you need help. If you have health insurance through your job, mental health might be covered. Check it out, and get an evaluation. It doesn't mean you have to follow through, just get checked out.
Do you really think I have a job that covers my health insurance that allows me to smoke weed.
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