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I'd drop this guy like a hot potato. He isn't all that into you or the relationship you both have.
Honestly, I'd fade out while he was on vacation. Move my crap out and find someplace else to live and just be gone by the time he got back and not respond to his calls. You need to trim the fat from your life.
I can guarantee you he won't care. It's likely that is what he is hoping will happen.
Too bad the OP relocated from another city/state and job for this guy. But maybe she'll manage to make lemonade out of lemons, and will find a truly great guy!
You should just comes to grips with the fact you will never be able to control him. I imagine you two have different definitions of exclusivity. Perhaps this is something you should discuss at some point.
On one hand, I understand the need to maintain one's identity and integrity when in a couple, as previous heartbreaks taught us both the hard lesson. But then again, how do you hold back when you love, as a close relationship requires vulnerability? And how do I get over this issue of him and his female friends? I do not want to become the 'drama queen'. Do I accept it and work through managing my anxiety (that would probably involve me booking a trip with my male friends for a childish revenge ) and self confidence, or should I demand of him to respect my feelings- or rethink the relationship?
Go on your own vacation. Alone or with others - it doesn't matter. Live your life. And, that will build self-confidence.
You know, it's interesting, the way that some guys think it's fine for them to exercise their options, and hang out with, or go on vacation with, female friends. My observation is that as soon as their gf decides she'll do the same, and starts spending time with a guy friend, all hell breaks loose. Some men seem to think they have this right but take for granted that their gf doesn't have any single guy friends, or won't attract the attention of other guys. Those are the types who need to have their bluff called. It would be interesting to see what happened if the OP were to go on vacation with an old bf or other male friend while her guy was in Italy.
Or better yet, while he waited for her at home, like she is being expected to do.
Total game playing......But, as you get older you realize that all these games are a total waste of time. That if you are in a relationship with someone that simply doesn't give a care about your feelings, you are already investing in a poor relationship.
Why waste time on someone so cavalier that he would BS you with that "list" of reasons.....non of which make any sense at all. Honestly....If these girls were on the up and up.....and they would be, if he had been honest about what you mean to him....They would have invited you to come as well.
I call BS on this whole situation.....If I were your Mom. I'd be telling you to move home......You deserve someone that at the least looks out for you emotionally. Ppl can say, oh....partners can tak seperat vacations, you should let him do his thing........But.....he seems so indifferent to your feelings.....I do not thik he cares enough for the scarifices that you've made.....You teach ppl how to treat you. That is the truth.....If someone treats you like you don't matter in the beginning of a relationship, when usually folks are putting their best face forward.....Then, he'll never treat you better. Good luck to you....
I don't know really what to say in your situation, however in mine, hubby used to take small trips with a female friend of his prior to our dating, but that stopped after we started dating. I didn't ask him to, he just did. He told me he felt it was disrespectful to consider doing that, that it wouldn't send the right message.
Besides that, when you only get 3 weeks vacation in a year, it would never occur to either one of us to spend that time with someone other than each other.
Your hubby has his priorities straight. Good for you two.
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) and self confidence, or should I demand of him to respect my feelings- or rethink the relationship?
