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Your natural instincts may be really good. If you can't think of a reason why she would do this, I would pay attention to it. I'm in my late fifties and I've learned to listen to that small voice that says, "something isn't right here".
It could be she sees something really wonderful in you. Sometimes beautiful women date a lot of awful men. But what they really want is someone with a genuine heart and soul. The only way you can tell her motives is with time. But first you need to ask yourself if you are willing to invest the time, emotion and energy getting the answer. And if you are, proceed with caution. Rome wasn't built in a day. Hold your cards close. If it is right, taking time won't damage the relationship.
You are completely overthinking what happens to two people when they are attracted to each other and start becoming intimate. Kissing is easy and natural. Sex is play, it's fun and it's ok to laugh and act less than suave.
Once you are at that point, you will be able to trust her to make it not awkward for you, and she will trust you to be 100% yourself and not some facsimile of a "great lover."
Relax. This is a one-time opportunity for you, and you will hate yourself forever if you let your insecurities ruin it for you.
Take a deep breath, close your eyes and take the plunge. I can assure you that taking a chance will be far less problematic than doing nothing at all.
You are completely overthinking what happens to two people when they are attracted to each other and start becoming intimate. Kissing is easy and natural. Sex is play, it's fun and it's ok to laugh and act less than suave.
Once you are at that point, you will be able to trust her to make it not awkward for you, and she will trust you to be 100% yourself and not some facsimile of a "great lover."
Relax. This is a one-time opportunity for you, and you will hate yourself forever if you let your insecurities ruin it for you.
Take a deep breath, close your eyes and take the plunge. I can assure you that taking a chance will be far less problematic than doing nothing at all.
What an utterly fabulous post! Just what the OP needed!
Your natural instincts may be really good. If you can't think of a reason why she would do this, I would pay attention to it. I'm in my late fifties and I've learned to listen to that small voice that says, "something isn't right here".
It could be she sees something really wonderful in you. Sometimes beautiful women date a lot of awful men. But what they really want is someone with a genuine heart and soul. The only way you can tell her motives is with time. But first you need to ask yourself if you are willing to invest the time, emotion and energy getting the answer. And if you are, proceed with caution. Rome wasn't built in a day. Hold your cards close. If it is right, taking time won't damage the relationship.
this is also advice i can agree with. it is good to take the time to get to know someone before jumping further into a relationship, but he has to take those first baby steps, which he seem reluctant to do.
it would be very awkard to me to deal with stuff like kissing and sex. No way I'm going through such an hummiliation.
As this attitude is not natural what are your plans to overcome such a disability?, You do realize that if you ever want a loving relationship and a family things like sex and kissing are part of the deal, if you are going to be something akin to a dead fish/scared little boy in any relationship it wont last long.
Grow a pair and ask the girl out,obviously she sees something interesting in you to have asked you out in the first place,whats the worst that can happen?
Doubt it, I'm a less than average student even though my degree is rather difficult (mechanical engineering). She's from chemical engineering.
Your constant lack of self esteem and excuses to avoid social contact with this particular woman and probably all women will conspire to provide you with a less than ideal love life if you ever have one at all.
I'd be interested to here what you envision as a compatible partner, obviously a gorgeous woman from Chemical engineering asking you out on a date isnt doing anything for you.
Any possibility you just dont like the female gender?
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