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I had this assignment in a class (in college) where I didn't know anyone but it was supposed to be in pairs. A girl asked me if I wanted to pair up and I said no problem. The assignment is done and the class is over.
Yesterday she invited me for coffee this Saturday and I told her I would have to check my schedule. I find it very suspicious because no girl has ever invited me to such a thing. Apart from that, she's incredibly beautiful whereas I'm average. I think she might be wanting to make fun of me or laugh in my face if I accept, like "How did it ever cross your mind I would go out with you?"
What do you think I should do?
ThermoMan -
I'm not going to read 11 pages of posts, so I'm likely to input stuff already mentioned.
Why she invited you out for coffee:
To show appreciation for your part in the assignment, assuming it was successful.
To make a new friend, since she likely got to know you a bit during the assignment.
To get to know you even more than just friends.
All of these options are GOOD.
How did she do during your assignment together? Did you "do" most of the work? Worst case scenario I see here is if she wants to mooch your help for other tests and assignments.
You're the one who knows her, we don't. Does she hang out with obnoxious people? Has she been a bully to others? If not then what are you waiting for?
If she DID laugh at you, just tell her that it's okay, she's too ugly to cry over.
If she invites me again, I'll accept it. If not, I'll let it stay as it is.
So you're going to roll over and play dead, unless she hits you over the head and drags you back to her cave by the hair? Okayy. That's what it takes with some guys. (Been there, done that.) We'll see if she decides you're worth the effort.
If she invites me again, I'll accept it. If not, I'll let it stay as it is.
Okay so you do want to see her again, but she has to do the leg work?
Nope, not how it works.
Women will only put themselves out there so much, for better or for worse. If you don't tell her that you had a good time, and maybe ask her to do something again, then you lose.
You have to at least thank her, OP. Don't be rude. While you have her on the phone, you can sound her out to see if you pick up signs of interest. Work it, OP, work it.
Okay so you do want to see her again, but she has to do the leg work?
Nope, not how it works.
Women will only put themselves out there so much, for better or for worse. If you don't tell her that you had a good time, and maybe ask her to do something again, then you lose.
That's OK. It's impossible for her not to have other guys around.
While I think the OP may be letting his skepticism get in the way of more relaxed and informative interaction with this person (as far as figuring out romantic intentions), there is nothing wrong with him saying a woman is beautiful but he isn't necessarily attracted to her. Very insulting to imply there's something wrong with him, actually. In addition to the non-physical mattering as well to him, it is entirely possible to think someone is beautiful, but not necessarily feel a strong physical attraction.
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