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Grow a pair and ask the girl out,obviously she sees something interesting in you to have asked you out in the first place,whats the worst that can happen?
Good question. OP, what's the worst that can happen if you call her and ask her out? What's the worst that could possibly happen on date 2? A conversation? Is that so terrifying?
As an aside, most of the men on here would be rounding third base on the way to home with this woman in the time it's taken for the OP's angst to play out.
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Good question. OP, what's the worst that can happen if you call her and ask her out? What's the worst that could possibly happen on date 2? A conversation? Is that so terrifying?
I don't get the mindset of so many people here on this. Geeze, lets say you get rejected or it doesn't work out at all 90% of the time (which is super high in reality).... 9/10 nothing happens, 1/10 there is awesome conversation, companionship, doing fun things, kissing... more... well shoot, if I was going to weight those things, the potential benefits WAY outweigh the potential negatives. It isn't even close!
Even if for some miracle things developed between us, it would be very awkard to me to deal with stuff like kissing and sex. No way I'm going through such an hummiliation.
Maybe you could benefit from some professional help.
As an aside, most of the men on here would be rounding third base on the way to home with this woman in the time it's taken for the OP's angst to play out.
Or they'd be trying to. But maybe what she likes about the OP is his shyness and nerdiness. Maybe she figured out he wouldn't be able to put any moves on her anytime soon, and that suits her. She may be one of the ones that like to take it slow.
I had this assignment in a class (in college) where I didn't know anyone but it was supposed to be in pairs. A girl asked me if I wanted to pair up and I said no problem. The assignment is done and the class is over.
Yesterday she invited me for coffee this Saturday and I told her I would have to check my schedule. I find it very suspicious because no girl has ever invited me to such a thing. Apart from that, she's incredibly beautiful whereas I'm average. I think she might be wanting to make fun of me or laugh in my face if I accept, like "How did it ever cross your mind I would go out with you?"
What do you think I should do?
Are you kidding me?? She is only asking for coffee, I would go for it, what do you have to lose? Especially if you think she is out of your league. Maybe she likes you for who you are? There are still people like that.
She showed no indication we were to see each other again so, no.
Did you watch her body language? How did she behave? Did YOU make it known that you were interested? Not in an overbearing, moving-too-fast way, but did you even ASK her what she was doing next weekend or anything?
I've always managed very well on my own, thank you very much. I pity those who always need to have someone else around, that surely isn't healthy.
You're introverted, I get that. I tend towards being that way myself, but you know what? I met a woman whose company I enjoy and married her. She's more introverted than I am, but it doesn't mean we don't enjoy each others company, emotionally, physically, and sexually, it simply means we're not the type to enjoy large crowds or parties. We both enjoy SMALL get-togethers but not clubs, bars, or large parties all that much (once in a blue moon is fine).
We also have our alone time and time with other friends, that's all normal...but don't mistake your own introversion for never needing to have another person's company. I made that mistake at one point in life. I like to think of it as being more selective with whose company I wish to be in.
You don't act like you're into women. You keep wanting to friendzone this classmate who you say is gorgeous, and a nice person. And into you.
Nobody does that, if they're into women.
They can, if they refuse to believe any truly beautiful woman would be interested in them.
I was at that point years ago. I intentionally dated women who I found only barely attractive (even considering my own somewhat "quirky" tastes in women anyway) because I though any moreso and they wouldn't be interested, no matter what signs I saw.
I had to improve myself in other ways to get past it.
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