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I don't know if I like her or not because our contact has been very superficial. I would have to get to know her better. I just find it impossible to believe she's into me. I see what type of guys girls go for and I don't fit into the model.
Dude, THERE IS NO MODEL!!!!!
Yes, there is a stereotype of "hot guy" and a lot of women like that type. A lot don't, or, at least, see things in other guys that are attractive as well even if they don't "fit the bill".
Yes, some women only date guys who look like George Clooney (or whoever). Just like some guys are PUA d-bags who only date "10's".
However, men too have different tastes - I like women who have a bit of a quirky, offbeat personality and looks - not "ugly" by anyone's standards, but beautiful in a way different than what Hollywood or the Internet says are hot.
I don't know if I like her or not because our contact has been very superficial. I would have to get to know her better. I just find it impossible to believe she's into me. I see what type of guys girls go for and I don't fit into the model.
Your own assumptions about her type of guy are going to ensure you never have a real relationship.
What you think you see and what you actually see can be two completely different things because your vision of yourself is skewed by your own insecurity.
If you want to know if she is wanting more than being colleagues or friends give a call and ask her if she would like to take a walk in the park then stop for an early supper.
You really don't know if you fit into her model for men she is attracted to or not.
I won't be contacting her any further, so case closed I suppose.
If you don't want to, then don't, there's nothing wrong with that...but what I don't understand is, why put forth all these concerns if you don't like her anyway? Why take the time to write up your original post, and reply, only to do nothing anyway in the end?
I don't get the mindset of so many people here on this. Geeze, lets say you get rejected or it doesn't work out at all 90% of the time (which is super high in reality).... 9/10 nothing happens, 1/10 there is awesome conversation, companionship, doing fun things, kissing... more... well shoot, if I was going to weight those things, the potential benefits WAY outweigh the potential negatives. It isn't even close!
exactly. i was in the exact same position the OP is in, when i was his age. i was painfully shy, and i had been rejected so many times, that if baron von ricktoven had as many air victories as women had rejections with me, germnay would have won world war one. but by the same token, had a girl asked me out, i would have gone, and if i had the time the OP had, i would be asking her out again.
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I won't be contacting her any further, so case closed I suppose.
well that is your choice obviously, but i think you are being a complete idiot, and you are going to relegate yourself to the ash heap of single hood for a very long time.
that depends on how you look at it. we at least got him to go out with this girl, even though he is being a complete idiot and not going out with her again, someone else in a similar situation might be reading this advice, and choose to go for it, and make the second date, and a third, and eventually marry the girl of his dreams.
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