How can I get him to help clean (interested, settle, years)
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Do you two still live at your grandmothers house and live rent free? You had mentioned that in another post. All the two of you are responsible for is utilities, and a couple other minor bills. If so, I can't imagine it needing to take so long for him to save money to move out considering he as a job as well.
Second, in your other post you said this, "We used to get along. When we moved he really pushed me away, he was working all the time, I never saw him, he'd then go spend time with his friends, he was always going to hang out with people and our work schedules conflicted and he never seemed to care that I was sad that he and I never got to spend time together."
I thought he didn't have anyone there. Maybe I am confused. If so, why not send him to live with those friends?
Because he hasn't talked to any of them all winter. They were people he'd go play disc golf with. It got cold, people stopped playing. He hasn't been back to play or talked to any of them.
And yes we do and Idk why he can't save his money. I kinda don't care right this second.
So when he got home he was like if I had hid your phone and you got home from work and couldn't have it before you cleaned you would pitch a fit. First off I clean, no need to hide my phone to motivate me. Second of all I take it to work like a normal person so how the hell would he have been able to get it? LOL
I told him either help me clean or GTFO, he packed up a small backpack of stuff and left.
Looks like I'll be finishing the house by myself tonight.
Because he hasn't talked to any of them all winter. They were people he'd go play disc golf with. It got cold, people stopped playing. He hasn't been back to play or talked to any of them.
And yes we do and Idk why he can't save his money. I kinda don't care right this second.
I do not know much else to say except quit being so nice, and kick him out. From the sounds of it, he has the PERFECT opportunity (from living rent free and you covering half of the utilities) to purchase a vehicle, and maybe build up a savings account, for emergency situations that may arise. (Such as his girlfriend wanting him to move out if he can't step up and be a man) Anyone smart person I know would take advantage of the opportunity and build themselves up.
In my opinion a slob will always be that, especially if they're already a grown man. I can already see his mentality is he goes to work, comes home and does nothing else. He believes a it's woman who can take care of the household cleaning, laundry, cooking, etc.
Have you asked yourself what YOU want? Do you want him to leave and be single (so you can have your space, alone time and some freedom) or are you still in love with him and want him to change?
You received excellent advice from a lot of people. I would kick him out and move on. You will live a much happier life! (I think you already know that too based on your other post)
So when he got home he was like if I had hid your phone and you got home from work and couldn't have it before you cleaned you would pitch a fit. First off I clean, no need to hide my phone to motivate me. Second of all I take it to work like a normal person so how the hell would he have been able to get it? LOL
I told him either help me clean or GTFO, he packed up a small backpack of stuff and left.
Looks like I'll be finishing the house by myself tonight.
Good for you choosing to avoid the opiates and sticking to the harmless mj. About him, it sounds hopeless and the only thing that could help is some tough love, boot him out. He may change his ways if he had to sleep on the street, but I doubt it.
I told him either help me clean or GTFO, he packed up a small backpack of stuff and left.
Looks like I'll be finishing the house by myself tonight.
Perfect. He has some where to go so no need to stress about that anymore! He sounds like a child. Run out from his home because he can't have the playstation remote because he needs to clean first.
Let him go. If you want to "mother" someone, consider adopting a child as adults who are truly no more than a child and need mothering are not a good bet since they will never, ever grow up. Throw his stuff out the door and change the locks.
So when he got home he was like if I had hid your phone and you got home from work and couldn't have it before you cleaned you would pitch a fit. First off I clean, no need to hide my phone to motivate me. Second of all I take it to work like a normal person so how the hell would he have been able to get it? LOL
I told him either help me clean or GTFO, he packed up a small backpack of stuff and left.
Looks like I'll be finishing the house by myself tonight.
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