How to break my shell of extreme shyness while talking to women (advice, personality)
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Try to think of women as one of the guys and not potential dates, that will get you over your mental barrier, just like posting on the forums here, many times you don't know the gender of other posters who do not disclose it.
When you do get involved in a conversation with a woman, do not pressure yourself that you have to get her to go out with you, be nice, friendly and be yourself, avoid being suggestive, too forward or sexual. All women have horror stories of creeps who have hit on them, don't be that guy. Instead take a genuine interest in getting to know someone with no expectations of being more than friends, let it become more if it is meant to be.
Reconsider your priorities in who you pursue, some women are stuck up *****es, some are easy to get to know, go after someone who is a good person on the inside, even if they are not thin, rich or good looking.
Am I the only one picturing Adi as Raj from Big Bang Theory?
Nope!
I can't imagine growing up the way he did, but the key is women are simply the female part of the human race. They are not deities, not anything to put on a pedestal. Speak to us like the regular people we are.
Smile, nod, say hello to people you pass on the street, female or male, young or old. Just get comfortable talking to others without it having to mean anything or lead anywhere. Once you're more at ease with that, then you can move on to "bigger" things.
The important thing is to be observant and read body language. Like the example of talking to the cashier at the grocery store, you could comment on the weather, how your baseball team is faring in the World Series playoffs, comment on how the National Enquirer headline "woman gives birth to 60lb baby" is so ridiculous, do they really think people believe that stuff?
You want to be at ease and put others at ease around you. I find I'm usually looking for something to say that will make someone laugh/smile as well. It's part of creating a good impression of yourself.
Am I the only one picturing Adi as Raj from Big Bang Theory?
I don't make weird or something. I just am fearful that I might offend them. While talking to guys, I know that expressing some of my concerns using foul language on occasions is perfectly ok, like "The Professor is such a (insert the B-word). I went for help, and she started making derogatory remarks about my performance". The fear is acting like a turn off or perhaps even offending women while saying similar things.
So I just go ahead and talk. I don't want to offend the other person, that's what I'm afraid of. I wont use swears, that's for sure. But men and women interpret certain phrases differently.
You need to flirt with them in a way that's subtle and sweet.
Don't be sarcastic, #1- DO NOT. That will definitely offend them (at least me) and they'll write you off completely. I dislike guys who come off as d_ickheads.
I'm shy myself, and dig shy guys. Sometimes, I can't tell if a guy is shy or just all around thrash and mean.
In order to appear confident, don't appear cocky. Embrace yourself.
Be genuine- be who you are, and strike a convo with a small joke or ask something about her that could be interesting.. whatever it is, your first few encounters need to be.. upbeat, positive, warm and friendly. (I guess also depends on the girl in mind, too). In general, keep the conversation fun and light-hearted!
Hi, I'm 22 years old and am focussing on personality development for attracting women. I would like to know how I can break my shell of shyness while talking with good looking women. Often, I blush or let my huge inferiority complex trample over me, like "she's too good for me" kind of thought. This really needs to change if I'm serious in transforming into a man from an adolescent. Any tips on how I can give up on this attitude.
Start talking to women. Buy a dog, go to a dog park, talk to other owners. If you're confused at a grocery store about a dinner you're cooking, go up to some random stranger and ask them if they know anything about it.
Go sit at a bar in a city with foreign ports of call, talk to people.
Basically, just start talking to people outside of your comfort zone. Men, women, old, young, it doesn't matter. I had a perfectly good conversation with a man I never knew in my life at Waffle House the other day while waiting on a date. I love talking to strangers, hearing their stories, it always gives you something to talk about, and then I had something to talk about with my date.
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