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We all have different worries, as we all have different areas in our lives where we happen to be fortunate and successful, and different areas where we lag. For example, I don't worry about inflation or unemployment, the cost of healthcare or housing, or saving for retirement. Barring some calamity, these things are settled in my life. Other people live paycheck to paycheck, and are outright mortified about how they're going to save for retirement. By the same token, I'm overwrought with dread on how to solve my dating-problems, whereas for other people such concerns are completely nugatory. When I was in college and grad school, I focused on my studies, to the exclusion of nearly everything else. Dating was a problem, but it wasn't a pivotal concern. Finishing my research and advancing my career were my main concerns. Times have changed, and priorities have changed. We worry most about the most immediate challenge that we happen to be facing.
Like seriously doe how the eff do you make it to 30+ and just like never date, then act like it's no big deal, or normal?
because it isn't a big deal and it is normal. some posters on CD make it seem like a huge deal or omg he is in his 30s or 40s and hasn't dated he must be abnormal. it truly is ridiculous.
This is mainly due to obesity, prevalence of tattoos, higher rates of severe acne and baldness, just to name a few reasons. It results in more competiton for the limited number of attractive people of both sexes.
(2) Busier, complicated, isolated world.
It's harder to meet people.
(3) Feminism.
Women are outpacing men, but still want men who are more successful than they are.
(4) Hookup culture.
More people are not long-term relationship material due to STDs and the fact that guys eschew promiscuous women as relationship partners.
(5) Messaging.
With text /Facebook/whatever messaging as a primary means of comunication, there is so much gamesmanship, feigning disinterest, misinterpretation, etc.
These are all valid points. I think the two big ones are technology and obesity. I think it's much easier to meet people now days, and our tech allows us to constantly communicate. When two people met 20 years ago, those people didn't have to compete for someones attention with 10 other people. It's so bad now days that you can literally be on a date with someone and have them ditch out because a more attractive option is texting them while you're having dinner.
Someone who is quite overweight and loses the weight probably will have tangibly better results, unless he/she has high standards or other major deal-breakers. Other appearance changes also can help. But this isn't the type of website that can do much about that. Somebody might even want to consider an image consultant or cosmetic surgeon for those things. Likewise, if a man (it's probably a man ) has terrible conversation skills, heck, we readers probably would not even know that. There are things people can change about themselves to personally improve their dating prospects, but I doubt the ability of relationship forums to help with much beyond OLD profiles.
It varies with the person. If a fat woman loses weight, she will have far more options. A short man is unable to gain height. If he spends 5 days per week in the gym for 2 years, he'll put on a lot of muscle, but it won't make up for a lack of height in many cases. Neither will conversation skills and money. So, in some cases, self improvement will do very little to nothing.
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) has terrible conversation skills, heck, we readers probably would not even know that. There are things people can change about themselves to personally improve their dating prospects, but I doubt the ability of relationship forums to help with much beyond OLD profiles.
