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Amen. The guys here judging her and dismissing her based on her physical appearance are no better than that 8th grade bully.
Grow up! This is why you get nowhere with women.
It's just more of that crappy worldview that women's bodies are public property to be commented on. If one doesn't agree with how she handled it, one needs only to say, "I don't agree with how she handled it because I feel it was immature/vindictive/pick an adjective."
The minute they comment on her looks, you know that they are basing the appropriateness of her actions on whether they are attracted to her--which is hilarious considering that the ones who do this tend to be the very same ones who natter on about how shallow a woman is if she passes them over in favor of someone taller, better built, or better-looking.
It also paints them as the kind of guy who would forgive a woman for bad behavior as long as they find her hot. But hey, maybe we should thank them for that, because I'm convinced that pursuing hot women who behave badly is a good part of what keeps CD-R in business when these guys then come on here and complain about gold-diggers and cheating beyotches who work them over. As you say, "Let me guess: She was hot?"
They were displaying false sincerity, pretending to be interested, and being abnormally nice to me, tell tale signs they wanted something from me.
Lol I'm awful, I don't trust anyone.
I wouldn't say that. You have good reason not to trust people like that. They were jerks to you before, they'll be jerks to you again.
Reason I asked if they acted like they were doing you a favor is that sometimes people like that have it somewhere in the back of their peabrains that they are somehow still "above" the Ugly Girl in the social pecking order, even if she's now gorgeous, so they ask on the assumption that she'll say yes because they're a step up for her.
They were displaying false sincerity, pretending to be interested, and being abnormally nice to me, tell tale signs they wanted something from me.
Lol I'm awful, I don't trust anyone.
Same for me. Had a guy who kicked me, insulted me, and made me cry. Then around another year later, he sees me, and wants a hug, then acts impressed with my body. Yeah right
Same for another guy who said another girl looked much better than I did, and I that I needed to be jealous of her. The 2nd guy I used to like, until then. Same for a 3rd guy, who agreed with the 2nd guy, yet still seem to act flirty toward me. Though one boy who used to bully and pick on me, I found out from my mother than he killed himself. I felt sorry for his family. Losing a loved one is terrible. Something I hate for anyone.
So, I would pay no mind to anyone I went to HS with, unless it was a decent acquaintance. I would have loved to have the chance this girl did. But alas. lol But moving on, and never seeing them again works too. because I doubt I will.
good riddance, I am sorry but someone that holds on to anger and resentment for years is not someone I would want to date anyway...and she is not that attractive, js.
Bullying, especially in childhood, goes deep. I doubt this woman has been frothing in anger her entire adult life over this; however, this person put himself back on her memory map by approaching her. So she told him off, short and sweet.
Lesson here: be kind to all girls, you never know when that "ugly duckling" can turn into a beautiful swan princess.
Actually, the lesson should be: don't be a crass jerk to anybody...even if, God forbid, that person doesn't turn into a beautiful swan princess. Because it hurts the person.
It should really be that simple. No future "beautiful princess" payoff required.
Lesson here: be kind to all girls, you never know when that "ugly duckling" can turn into a beautiful swan princess.
Yes, and what that type of guy is missing is that she's still the same person that she was in 8th grade. By which I mean, she still has the same values, probably some of the same quirky, creative personality that lead her to dress unconventionally in Middle School, the same sensitivity, the same smarts or geekiness. It's not just about the outward packaging, there's a whole inner world to be discovered in women. The guy could have enjoyed her personality, wit, creativity, and other positive qualities through their years at school, he didn't have to wait until she morphed into a cute blonde to try to get to know her.
Whether you are male or female I think we can relate. Someone that either made fun of you or completely ignored you and later asks you out because you have changed. For the ones that don't want to click here is her note cut and pasted.
This is what the note she left him said.
Hey [blank],
So sorry I can’t join you tonight.
Remember year 8, when I was fat and you made fun of my weight? No? I do – I spent the following three years eating less than an apple a day. So I’ve decided to skip dinner.
Remember the monobrow you mocked?
The hairy legs you were disgusted by? Remember how every day for three years, you and your friends called me Manbeast? No perhaps you don’t – or you wouldn’t have seen how I look eight years later and deemed me ****able enough to treat me like a human being.
I thought I’d send you this as a reminder. Next time you think of me, picture that girl in this photo, because she’s the one who just stood you up.
Louisa.
So she has been in the control of that this many years? Revenege rarely really satisfies or makes up for the years thinking about it and what it does to a person; IMO.A least it seems to have gotten her attention and motivated her to lose. Likely the other party moved on then and this time.
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