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It would be more worth it to get direct feedback on your profile content instead of shelling out money to get photos. Have you tried posting your profile to get advice from women? "Well written" is kind of a subjective opinion.
Personally, any profiles that have professionals head shots are a turn off (unless the guy is an actor or comedian and needed to take them for work).
First off, not to sound mean, but do you have what professional photographers can work with to make you into the type you wish to woo women with? From what I hear, most men don't get many responses anyway unless they look like a model. Online dating is very shallow. Most women won't talk to you unless you fit a certain criteria with height and looks . If you look better at a certain angle or need some makeup/photoshop, then maybe... but honestly, I wouldn't bank on it. I don't know if your criteria for women online are too high but it's often true that people's standards when it comes to online dating are abnormally higher than IRL.
This.
OP, there is no point. It's a waste of money, unless you are in the Top 10% of men looks-wise (Hint: if you were, you wouldn't be having problems dating....so this means that you're not). Just meet women IRL.
In pics, I look average to maybe slightly above average
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First off, not to sound mean, but do you have what professional photographers can work with to make you into the type you wish to woo women with? From what I hear, most men don't get many responses anyway unless they look like a model. Online dating is very shallow. Most women won't talk to you unless you fit a certain criteria with height and looks. If you look better at a certain angle or need some makeup/photoshop, then maybe... but honestly, I wouldn't bank on it. I don't know if your criteria for women online are too high but it's often true that people's standards when it comes to online dating are abnormally higher than IRL.
It's your money. Spend it how you like. Figure out how much the pics would set you back and decide if they're worth it. I think they might help you since online dating is all about appearances.
I think pics that show your personality are the best. I like my profile picture here but have shown "normal" pics of myself to people who said they like them better because they can see my personality in them. Maybe someday I'll switch my profile pic to one of those (not online dating so take it for what it's worth).
I dont think 1 or 2 pro photos would HURT
especially if you are a bad photographer or don't have a flickr/instagram feed with 100s of pics to choose from.
but I do have a female friend who does OKC (she's a strange bird, overall) and she's one of those women who says she automatically clicks "next" when she sees a headshot.
My own circumstance was - I had absolutely zero recent photos of me. So I did do the pro photog session. Can't say "its working" but I'm still having fun with OKC, I'm not white-knuckle serious about it.
I tried online dating once and absolutely despised it. I think one of the big things holding me back is that my pictures look so awful compared to how I look in real life
Is it worth it to have a professional photographer take a couple nice pics of me? I was thinking one good headshot and maybe a full body picture outside in a nice fitted t-shirt and jeans. I would have maybe 2 professional pics and 2 regular ones
I hear so much awful feedback on online dating. I dunno. Are there any men here who have had any real luck finding somebody online? Are sites like match any better than okcupid?
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How much do you make?
Oh, that doesn't matter. I never listed income or mentioned anything that indicates income. No one cared, no one of quality anyway.
Lots of the guys I know have tons of luck. Not as much as real life, but I've known plenty of guys that met their wives online. Most everyone gets a few dates a week and sometimes it turns into something. I met the woman I was engaged to online. Had relationships come out of OLD many times. Made a fair number of my closest friends form OLD that didn't work out romantically. Found two lovers that lasted 5 years+ (5 for one, 8 for the other) online. It's a gold mine to meet people. My most successful years (as a guy) was when I was 32-35 and 38-42, in between there I ran into a bit of "I want to have children and I have to decide if you're the future dad right away" crap, but that was just a blip... still had dates and plenty of sex, but it just didn't lead to relationships.
I tried online dating once and absolutely despised it. I think one of the big things holding me back is that my pictures look so awful compared to how I look in real life
Is it worth it to have a professional photographer take a couple nice pics of me? I was thinking one good headshot and maybe a full body picture outside in a nice fitted t-shirt and jeans. I would have maybe 2 professional pics and 2 regular ones
I hear so much awful feedback on online dating. I dunno. Are there any men here who have had any real luck finding somebody online? Are sites like match any better than okcupid?
I did it. Most women can tell they're professional pics (not all mine are), but they like them anyway. So yes, I say do it.
I tried online dating once and absolutely despised it. I think one of the big things holding me back is that my pictures look so awful compared to how I look in real life
Is it worth it to have a professional photographer take a couple nice pics of me? I was thinking one good headshot and maybe a full body picture outside in a nice fitted t-shirt and jeans. I would have maybe 2 professional pics and 2 regular ones
I hear so much awful feedback on online dating. I dunno. Are there any men here who have had any real luck finding somebody online? Are sites like match any better than okcupid?
It's not worth it to get professional pictures done because online dating is a joke.
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