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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by Lafleur
What do you think is happening?
Used for sex and a few dates? Call me cynical, but that's what I'm beginning to think.
I just think she isn't super into you. She likes you fine enough, she's just not super into you.
That is what happens 90%+ of the time after a few dates.
It isn't being "used", it is just what happens most of the time. Sometimes it is a few dates, sometimes a few months, but a real connection is hard to find. I never considered it being "used" when I was on the side your on, but I was bummed. Eh, its part of dating.
There was this one woman I met, oh, two years ago where I thought something really would happen. We had fun, great long conversations to 4am when we should have been getting some sleep before work (lost track of time), fun sex (apparently more fun for me), laughs, she was highly educated, smart, Brazilian...sigh... and it turned out she wasn't feeling it and bailed after about four weeks. It sucked, especially since we lived (I think she's moved now) in the same general neighborhood and twice in the months after that I saw her out with other guys.
It's part of life. It sucks. It just wasn't a right match. After that I took a good long OLD break.
Used for sex and a few dates? Call me cynical, but that's what I'm beginning to think.
Or it could be that she just doesn't feel the same connection and it took a few dates to discover this. That is what dating is for, and i don't believe you can always know after only one date if there is a connection. It doesn't necessarily mean you were used though.
I just think she isn't super into you. She likes you fine enough, she's just not super into you.
That is what happens 90%+ of the time after a few dates.
It isn't being "used", it is just what happens most of the time. Sometimes it is a few dates, sometimes a few months, but a real connection is hard to find. I never considered it being "used" when I was on the side your on, but I was bummed. Eh, its part of dating.
There was this one woman I met, oh, two years ago where I thought something really would happen. We had fun, great long conversations to 4am when we should have been getting some sleep before work (lost track of time), fun sex (apparently more fun for me), laughs, she was highly educated, smart, Brazilian...sigh... and it turned out she wasn't feeling it and bailed after about four weeks. It sucked, especially since we lived (I think she's moved now) in the same general neighborhood and twice in the months after that I saw her out with other guys.
It's part of life. It sucks. It just wasn't a right match. After that I took a good long OLD break.
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Originally Posted by Liberty2011
Or it could be that she just doesn't feel the same connection and it took a few dates to discover this. That is what dating is for, and i don't believe you can always know after only one date if there is a connection. It doesn't necessarily mean you were used though.
I wish these women would leave me alone. They are toxic to my life.
Sure, they're not into me today. Then a month later they're hitting me up asking me how I am an wanting to hang out. It happens ALL THE FRICKIN' TIME! It just happened with the girl from October. WHY?!?! Leave me the hell alone!
People are so selfish and only care about their own needs. As soon as I stop showing them attention, they come out of the woodwork trying to reconnect. I wish they'd just stop. Stop accepting my invitations to go out. Stop hitting me up when you damn well feel like it. Stop! It makes me feel like ****; like I'm being used.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by Lafleur
I wish these women would leave me alone. They are toxic to my life.
Sure, they're not into me today. Then a month later they're hitting me up asking me how I am an wanting to hang out. It happens ALL THE FRICKIN' TIME! It just happened with the girl from October. WHY?!?! Leave me the hell alone!
People are so selfish and only care about their own needs. As soon as I stop showing them attention, they come out of the woodwork trying to reconnect. I wish they'd just stop.
You're just not in a good mental/emotional place to date, man. That's perfectly ok. I was there after the Brazilian woman. I've been there multiple times. Taking a break is good sometimes.
I wish these women would leave me alone. They are toxic to my life.
Sure, they're not into me today. Then a month later they're hitting me up asking me how I am an wanting to hang out. It happens ALL THE FRICKIN' TIME! It just happened with the girl from October. WHY?!?! Leave me the hell alone!
People are so selfish and only care about their own needs. As soon as I stop showing them attention, they come out of the woodwork trying to reconnect. I wish they'd just stop. Stop accepting my invitations to go out. Stop hitting me up when you damn well feel like it. Stop! It makes me feel like ****; like I'm being used.
Delete their numbers and don't respond.
I get the impression that you're making yourself too available to women, especially ones where you tried dating and it didn't work out for whatever reason at that time. Let those ones stay in the past.
I wish these women would leave me alone. They are toxic to my life.
Sure, they're not into me today. Then a month later they're hitting me up asking me how I am an wanting to hang out. It happens ALL THE FRICKIN' TIME! It just happened with the girl from October. WHY?!?! Leave me the hell alone!
People are so selfish and only care about their own needs. As soon as I stop showing them attention, they come out of the woodwork trying to reconnect. I wish they'd just stop. Stop accepting my invitations to go out. Stop hitting me up when you damn well feel like it. Stop! It makes me feel like ****; like I'm being used.
No you don't. It feeds your ego to know all these useless women want you. Admit it, it gives you "bragging rights". Otherwise you would block contact with them and they wouldnt even be given the time of day.
No you don't. It feeds your ego to know all these useless women want you. Admit it, it gives you "bragging rights". Otherwise you would block contact with them and they wouldnt even be given the time of day.
I don't give a damn about that and you know it. Why would I create threads like this as opposed to something along the lines of, "Hey guys, got laid again last night and don't plan on calling her again. Let me show you how to use women and dispose of them!"? Wouldn't that make a little more sense for an alleged ego-maniac?
That is really strange that you would say something like this. I mean, have you NOT been reading my posts? Maybe if you weren't so nasty to people, you'd actually have a chance at a good guy.
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