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I could understand if she's still a bit hesitant about initiating, but I don't understand the nonchalance/disinterest when he contacts her. That's not the way I'd respond to someone I was interested in and having sex with.
She doesn't show disinterest when I contact her. She always replies back when in a reasonable amount of time and responds in an enthusiastic manner. She has never turned down a date up to this point.
She shows nonchalance and disinterest by not contacting me or initiating plans after nearly a month of dating.
That's what I'm saying. I don't get it. And it's extremely frustrating, because this is how it's been with the last few women I've dated. And then I'm left feeling like I'm jumping the gun by writing them off when they don't step up their game. I think some people are just really bad at dating.
Word of advice to daters:
If you aren't interested in someone, tell them as soon as you can. Don't sleep with them and keep leading them on like it's going somewhere. And most of all, don't hit them up after weeks of not hearing from them. You had your shot, you blew it, move on.
If you like someone, tell them. Don't sit back and and make them try to figure it out.
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She doesn't show disinterested when I contact her. She always replies back when in a reasonable amount of time and responds in an enthusiastic manner. She shows nonchalance and disinterest by not contacting me or initiating plans after nearly a month of dating.
It just well could be she is dating around too; so she is just responding to the invitations made and she doesn't have any need or desire to initiate plans.
She doesn't show disinterest when I contact her. She always replies back when in a reasonable amount of time and responds in an enthusiastic manner. She has never turned down a date up to this point.
She shows nonchalance and disinterest by not contacting me or initiating plans after nearly a month of dating.
Ok, I was referring to before when you were saying she didn't seem all that chatty when you called her and then just ended the conversation by telling you that her phone died.
Ok, I was referring to before when you were saying she didn't seem all that chatty when you called her and then just ended the conversation by telling you that her phone died.
Alright, fair enough. Yeah, she was kind of whatever on the phone when I tried to have a conversation with her then. That said, phone conversations can be tricky when you don't know a person all that well.
But when we're in person, everything seems fine. We have a good time.
Would you ever consider asking her directly where her head is at? That's what my husband did when he was courting me. I didn't like being put on the spot, but after I came right out and told him that I wanted to continue seeing him, he really showed me what he was made of. ** swoon**
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Would you ever consider asking her directly where her head is at? That's what my husband did when he was courting me. I didn't like being put on the spot, but after I came right out and told him that I wanted to continue seeing him, he really showed me what he was made of. ** swoon**
I've done that more than once. Most of the time it ended things, a few times it led to great conversations that strengthened the relationships.
It can't hurt and I think this is a good suggestion if this situation is really flustering you, which it apparently is.
Would you ever consider asking her directly where her head is at? That's what my husband did when he was courting me. I didn't like being put on the spot, but after I came right out and told him that I wanted to continue seeing him, he really showed me what he was made of. ** swoon**
I thought that's what the OP was going to do, during the Friday night/Sat. morning date. But... I guess not. It sounds like he's set to be a guy in his date's experience who just fades out after 4 dates.
I thought that's what the OP was going to do, during the Friday night/Sat. morning date. But... I guess not. It sounds like he's set to be a guy in his date's experience who just fades out after 4 dates.
You apparently didn't read my previous response where I said that she failed to show up on Saturday night when I was out. We had talked about meeting up Saturday night, she made it sound like she was down to meet up. I didn't hear from her though. She was out of town Sunday and Monday, so there was no opportunity to talk.
Stop trying to pin this on me, like I'm the one at fault. I've done EVERYTHING here. When do women start taking responsibility for anything during the dating process? I'm just curious.
Of course I (and every other guy I know) am going to fade on women who are nonchalant and half-hearted during the dating process.
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