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I agree. That's why I said it rubbed me the wrong way. It made me feel like I was being used.
Ugh. Well, fleur, you could surprise her by dropping her. After all this, all these pages and us encouraging you, it comes to this. But, whatever. It's your life and your wallet.
That's how it's starting to seem to me. Not to harp on it, but usually taking things slow an overall thing. Sex very early on isn't taking it slow, and being annoyed that you're not footing her bar bill isn't either. Have to wonder which part is slow, simply not labelling yourselves as BF/GF?
Crap, well I'll already invited her to dinner at my place tomorrow. I guess I'll have to break things off afterwards.
That's how it's starting to seem to me. Not to harp on it, but usually taking things slow an overall thing. Sex very early on isn't taking it slow, and being annoyed that you're not footing her bar bill isn't either. Have to wonder which part is slow, simply not labelling yourselves as BF/GF?
Yes, that seems to be the definition of "slow", here.
Oh come on. It is unusual to go out with someone and not be basically at the same rate; that only happens when one person dominates a conversation and doesn't drink (annoying). It is rare that at the end of the night (unless you're living in a place where someone needs to drive and it was a long night) where you're not within 1 drink of the other. Very rare.
And he said they both had three drinks. You're the only one that kind of assumed that he had one.
I was kind of thinking he might have had two, while she had 4. So, if they each had 3 or 4 drinks, who drove?
To me it's not even about the drinks, but that appalling comment about an entertainment budget.
The "entertainment budget" does come off as someone is supposed to take her out. When I hear comments from someone who I'm deciding if they have feelings for me, just tells me that they don't. You may be high on her priority list, because she has nothing better going on, but you're low on her how to treat people list. I'd just take this as a learning experience and move on. Too much headache and too many of your "rules" aren't working for her. Your "rules" will work better with someone who's a better fit and thinks more like you do.
In the meantime, look to adjust some of the rules and think more outside the box, within reason of course.
To be fair, sometimes it's ok to take a break and exit the dating scene for awhile. Relationships can be exhausting and sometimes you need to be single and by yourself.
OP, I'm still thinking that this issue of women your age thinking you're too young for them and not being interested is part of the problem you're having in finding a suitable partner. That's not to say that younger women categorically are immature or at a different dating stage in life, but it makes the search harder if your choices are limited. Not that there's much you can do about it, I guess, except stay open to meeting women through activities, where they can get to know you before you ask them out.
Don't drop her if you like her. Who cares if we don't?
I like her, but maybe I'm being delusional about her as well. I mean, what if she's only using me to get sex and free meals/drinks? After last night's comment, that's sort of what it seems at this point.
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