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For religious reasons, we did not have sex until after "I do". 38 years later where more in love and still happy. And, the sex does not end after marriage or after the kids, our kids are completely grown, put we are still having fun in the bedroom on at least a weekly basis.
So, just to throw it out there, it's not the 1970's anymore... that sort of ridiculous attitude was a little more prevalent back then
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So, just to throw it out there, it's not the 1970's anymore... that sort of ridiculous attitude was a little more prevalent back then
It wasn't too prevalent in the late 60s or 1970s either, actually. If you talk to people that lived then, or read memoirs (I just finished some pieces by a part time farmer/photographer in Vermont) I'm fully convinced there was A TON more casual sex going on, and it wasn't even close.
I just quickly scanned the article. This study reflects what I've seen. In the second part of the article, I think they hit the nail on the head. Women and men who have more sexual partners have a harder time with commitment. It isn't necessarily the sex, but the fact is these people just don't tend to like settling down in a long term relationships as much.
Just wonder how many people, especially man agree with NO SEX before marriage. Does it matter to marry a virgin?
I see no reason to wait if you do not wish it. As for who I would marry - I would marry someone who I want to share my life with. Their sexual history - with me or anyone else - is about as low down the list of criteria for me as it gets. And I can honestly think of no reason why it should be otherwise.
I guess some people obsess over virginity for sure - but I have never understood the first thing about why.
Sex is such an elemental aspect of human pair-bonding that the very notion of agreeing to such a life-long bond before exploring the sexual component of a relationship is, frankly, nonsensical.
That, and why wouldn't someone want to share such a joyful experience with someone they care enough about to marry in the somewhat distant future? (given that marriages tend to be planned many months in advance)
Yes, yes, I know the usual 'reasons'. An ancient books says you should. It's safer (but then, lifelong celibacy is even safer still - but you're not adhering to that, so I guess safer conveniently only applies as far as you want it to apply). Those 'reasons' are illogical and contradictory.
Oh, you can do it if you want. But don't expect a pat on the head and a thumbs up as if it's some sort of wonderful and prudent accomplishment.
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Oh, you can do it if you want. But don't expect a pat on the head and a thumbs up as if it's some sort of wonderful and prudent accomplishment.
This.
There is nothing noble about not having sex.
Texts written by males, then transcribed multiple times( from Aramaic and Ancient Hebrew and Grek, to Latin, to English, etc... anyone else realize how much is lost in modern translations?) by other males seeking power and control, that are supposedly the words of a Flying Spaghetti Monster, are really completely irrelevant in this day and age.
Sex is such an elemental aspect of human pair-bonding that the very notion of agreeing to such a life-long bond before exploring the sexual component of a relationship is, frankly, nonsensical.
That, and why wouldn't someone want to share such a joyful experience with someone they care enough about to marry in the somewhat distant future? (given that marriages tend to be planned many months in advance)
Yes, yes, I know the usual 'reasons'. An ancient books says you should. It's safer (but then, lifelong celibacy is even safer still - but you're not adhering to that, so I guess safer conveniently only applies as far as you want it to apply). Those 'reasons' are illogical and contradictory.
Oh, you can do it if you want. But don't expect a pat on the head and a thumbs up as if it's some sort of wonderful and prudent accomplishment.
Yup getting a pat on the back is the only reason that people make such a choice.
I swear, this forum is full of self-absorbed people.
Just wonder how many people, especially man agree with NO SEX before marriage.
Does it matter to marry a virgin?
NOt me
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