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so a man is suppose to have no life outside of his family?!?!
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I think going out once a week and staying out until a reasonable time is fine. IMO, when you have young kids you shouldn't be staying out until the middle of the night.
That said, it is only reasonable if his wife ALSO gets to go out once a week and can stay out just as late. Somehow I doubt that is happening in the OP's case, even when she isn't pregnant and has the energy to go out.
You guys are saying it is okay that a father of almost two goes out drinking until the morning hours every week while the wife is at home with the kids? Really???
Yes... it's perfectly reasonable to expect a guy to get some "friends" time once a week
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Originally Posted by oh-eve
There is a difference between meeting friends every now and then and going out drinking EVERY WEEK until LATE AT NIGHT.
What about the wife's life outside the family? He expects her to be home while he is out drinking.
And I think it's perfectly reasonable for the wife to have her time with friends too... but probably not while she is pregnant
Yes... it's perfectly reasonable to expect a guy to get some "friends" time once a week
It's totally reasonable for a woman to get some "friends" time once a week until 2:00 am too, right? I don't see why being pregnant would mean you can't have time with your friends. Yeah, a woman can't get plastered while pregnant (or shouldn't), but you still need social interaction.
I think going out once a week and staying out until a reasonable time is fine. IMO, when you have young kids you shouldn't be staying out until the middle of the night.
That said, it is only reasonable if his wife ALSO gets to go out once a week and can stay out just as late. Somehow I doubt that is happening in the OP's case, even when she isn't pregnant and has the energy to go out.
So here's the thing...
With young kids, they are in bed by what, 9, 10pm? At that point what difference does it make how late he is out? He's not going to be missing out on any additional kid time
I think going out once a week and staying out until a reasonable time is fine. IMO, when you have young kids you shouldn't be staying out until the middle of the night.
That said, it is only reasonable if his wife ALSO gets to go out once a week and can stay out just as late. Somehow I doubt that is happening in the OP's case, even when she isn't pregnant and has the energy to go out.
Yes, this. Make sure you get time by yourself too. Stay out late too. Alternate nights so someone stays home with the kids, or get a sitter/grandparent to stay with the kids.
I think it's fine, at least from my perspective. I'm not married or have kids yet, but I'm in a serious relationship, and my boyfriend will go out at least once a week with his friends. He gets home anywhere from 1 -3 AM, that's pretty normal for him, he works at night so his sleep schedule is different than most, his mornings start 12 PM.
Now I don't really know your situation that much, if he worked in the morning I'd say 3 is a bit late. If he works at night like my man does, 3 doesn't seem unreasonable. Kids are in bed by then, I don't see why getting home at 10 compared to 3 is a big deal. My boyfriends cousin, who has a three year old will go out several nights a week and be home late, while someone else in the house watches the child.
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