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Old 07-12-2015, 01:49 PM
 
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I said 10% because 50% of society is men and 40% are women who are too old/too young/married
That still doesn't make sense. Then that 10 percent would include women who you don't find desirable.

I just find it incredible that someone who makes friends easily and is attractive has such difficulty. There's got to be something missing from this picture. Have you asked your friends what they think the issue is?

 
Old 07-12-2015, 01:49 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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It's not a question of social skills
Doubtful.

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the real problem is that women don't make themselves available to me
Because they aren't interested. And why do you think that is?

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Maybe I'm just not assertive enough? It's just difficult. I hate rejection...the whole process is a pain in the ass for me
Yes,this is definitely it. Start strong-arming them, and seeing how that works out for you.
 
Old 07-12-2015, 01:52 PM
 
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That still doesn't make sense. Then that 10 percent would include women who you don't find desirable.

I just find it incredible that someone who makes friends easily and is attractive has such difficulty. There's got to be something missing from this picture. Have you asked your friends what they think the issue is?
the 10 percent was a rough estimation, you can use whatever number you like.


My friends are worthless when it comes to this problem, my family too. All they do is kiss my ass and tell me how amazing I am. I gotta figure this out on my own
 
Old 07-12-2015, 01:52 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I just don't know guys. I feel that I'm going to die alone. I'm not willing to settle for someone morbidly obese and the halfway decent looking women my age never want anything to do with me. The weird thing is that they're the only people who act that way - everybody else absolutely adores me - straight men, gay men, older people, younger people. I get way more compliments and attention from gay men than women for example. It's just baffling.
Your friends set you up with a cute slightly-chubbie, but you decided that wasn't good enough for you, even though she was very into you. You'll find no sympathy here. You can't fool us; you're obviously looking for more than "halfway-decent-looking".

And btw, you may be good-looking with a suit on, and all, but yours is still a niche look. Definitely not a WASP look. Which means it'll be more challenging finding someone to at least give you a chance. That's just the way it is; it's a not uncommon problem that some women face, as well. At least Jewish people have J-Date. Unfortunately, there is no Armenia-Date. Maybe you were right on your very first thread; maybe you should take a vacation in Armenia and scope the place out. It's beautiful, not a bad place to spend a vacation. You could test the waters with the social scene. Just hope your mother doesn't broadcast to your relatives over there that you make a lot of money and have a fancy car.
 
Old 07-12-2015, 01:58 PM
 
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Narcissistic personality disorder Symptoms - Mayo Clinic
This is op has this.
 
Old 07-12-2015, 01:58 PM
 
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Your friends set you up with a cute slightly-chubbie, but you decided that wasn't good enough for you, even though she was very into you. You'll find no sympathy here. You can't fool us; you're obviously looking for more than "halfway-decent-looking".


she was 30 lbs overweight.


**** that, I'm not interested in killing myself at the gym to look like this






so I can date a fat woman. Not interested
 
Old 07-12-2015, 02:00 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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she was 30 lbs overweight.


**** that, I'm not interested in killing myself at the gym to look like this






so I can date a fat woman. Not interested
You sound like a great guy. I don't understand why the women aren't flocking to you.
 
Old 07-12-2015, 02:02 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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Methinks posting shirtless selfies and going on and on about your own opinion of your physique is not helping your case. Just saying.

Again, with the social skills...
 
Old 07-12-2015, 02:03 PM
 
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And btw, you may be good-looking with a suit on, and all, but yours is still a niche look

you really think so?


I've gotten compliments from black folks, hispanics, asians and plenty of white people who said I was very handsome
 
Old 07-12-2015, 02:03 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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she was 30 lbs overweight.


**** that, I'm not interested in killing myself at the gym to look like this


so I can date a fat woman. Not interested
STOP! OMG we are not impressed.

Like I said, SELF-centered.

Get your head out of your butt, look around and find something worthwhile to be interested in.
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