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Originally Posted by Valdimir
How do you even date someone who has no time or lacks interest?
You don't.
Why would you want to?
Dating is simple. It is just like making a friend, with some romance involved. Especially at college age it is no different than hanging out with and making new friends.
I don't know that it's selfish but it may be shortsighted. I friendzoned a man last May and we really did become very good friends--he's attractive enough but no chemistry at all, at all. So I introduced him to a good friend of mine last month and they're already saying the ILY. It took her a few days to believe that I really did not want to date him but like him very much and then they were in each other's arms. So, you just never know. Just hang loose and be friendly, not desperate.
OP - Communications at the outset is the key. Let women know you are taking them on dates. If there's no physicality by date three (or whatever number you choose)... there's obviously an issue and the relationship isn't moving forward romantically. By physicality I mean kissing, hugging, touching, etc... some sort of touching should be happening and you should be initiating it if she isn't.
Now in regards to how to handle being put into the friend zone... I have strong opinion on that: Remain friends with her. I mean that. Keep your heart open and although you should cut down on the attempted romantic wooing due to it being unreciprocated, stay in touch.
The main reasons are very pragmatic and logical...
1) she may change her mind some day, and
2) she has friends, single friends who you may have opportunity with some day. In either situation it's a win-win for you and her to remain friends and friendly.
There's another reason: I enjoy spreading love and happiness thus keeping lines of friendship open furthers that cause.
How do you even date someone who has no time or lacks interest?
This is the only stradegy i got
Its not easy when ur time is very limited and these woman disappear
I have dated woman before like this but very few
Women make time for guys they like. They generally don't like random guys who approach them.
Spend your time doing things that will put you in repeated contact with women and allow you to get to know them instead of spending your time playing video games.
[quote=Just A Guy;41250537]Women make time for guys they like. They generally don't like random guys who approach them.
Spend your time doing things that will put you in repeated contact with women and allow you to get to know them instead of spending your time playing video
So i just join a club and be like hey i join this club just to meet woman
So would you like to go on a date with me ?
OP - Communications at the outset is the key. Let women know you are taking them on dates. If there's no physicality by date three (or whatever number you choose)... there's obviously an issue and the relationship isn't moving forward romantically. By physicality I mean kissing, hugging, touching, etc... some sort of touching should be happening and you should be initiating it if she isn't.
Now in regards to how to handle being put into the friend zone... I have strong opinion on that: Remain friends with her. I mean that. Keep your heart open and although you should cut down on the attempted romantic wooing due to it being unreciprocated, stay in touch.
The main reasons are very pragmatic and logical...
1) she may change her mind some day, and
2) she has friends, single friends who you may have opportunity with some day. In either situation it's a win-win for you and her to remain friends and friendly.
There's another reason: I enjoy spreading love and happiness thus keeping lines of friendship open furthers that cause.
Women make time for guys they like. They generally don't like random guys who approach them.
Spend your time doing things that will put you in repeated contact with women and allow you to get to know them instead of spending your time playing video
So i just join a club and be like hey i join this club just to meet woman
So would you like to go on a date with me ?
No. You're expected to act like a human being who has more on his mind than "OMG I really need a woman!" (Whether you're just needing one for sex, or you want love.) Acting "thirsty" or in other words making it a top priority, will NOT be attractive to women and we can sense that behavior a mile off.
The correct approach is to put yourself out there where the women are, optimally doing something that you are interested in, let us for this example pretend it's a club. So you join this club. If you're interested in the subject of the club, that's best. If not, you better be able to fake it, really well...so don't choose a club that will be difficult to fake. You can't pull off "I'm a chess champion" if you've never played the game. Then, you act as though it's a total coincidence that you find yourself in the proximity of these lovely women. And you treat them...wait for it.... like people.
You relax. Let them see you around and be comfortable in your presence. See which ones act warm and which ones act cold. Single out your target. Start with eye contact. Then just talk to her. About anything. But drop hints such as nonthreatening compliments on her clothing or jewelry or something. Show that you are noticing her and things about her. Monitor her responses. The more her nonverbals give a green-light, her words will soon follow, and before you know it, you'll be asking her out for dinner/coffee/movie/whatever on Friday night and slinging subtle "I'm so gonna make you scream my name" innuendo.
Now none of this is difficult for some men, but for others, no matter how many times they are told how to interact with women, it seems like so much work, or it's too hard, or whatever...and I think some guys just don't know how to read others' body language. I don't know.
So any tips you can provide for me?
Look I serious am tired of JUST A FRIENDSHIP I want something more than that and yea I move on really FAST and would talk to multiple woman if thats the case but thats all I seek something more than just a friendship
My advice.....BE SELFISH.
Always put your interest first.
Do what is best for you.
Never cater or change who you are, what you believe, or what you truly want for anyone including a woman.
Some will not like it....Others will only get more turned on by your solid stance......screw the ones that don't.
Last edited by usamathman; 09-18-2015 at 02:55 PM..
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