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You do realize that if your co-worker(s) do not want you to flirt with them and create sexual tension between the two of you, yet you continue to do this so you will not get friendzoned and "finish last", your behavior is grounds for a sexual harassment complaint... right?
Years ago I worked in a small department and there were 2 women and 3 men there. This nutjob broad got it her head that she was working in a "hostile environment" and all 3 of the men, myself included got sucked into an HR meeting/ass reaming session and had a letter placed in to our files.
Mind you I rarely ever interacted with this loon and I got my hands slapped.
I couldn't imagine "creating sexual tension" with female coworkers....... would never even enter my radar, but again, half the stuff that that poster says doesn't enter my radar.......
Never was revenge and never got mad but I just don't have that kind of time to really invest in more friends
My time is somewhat limited [snip]
But I just will clearly not invest my time in someone who not interested in dating
Better to save myself the time for both myself and the person who is not interested than invest in someone who will turn you down in a week
This is why people think you're after sex and not an actual girlfriend.
1. If you don't have time to invest in more friends, then you don't have time for a girlfriend. Note the 'friend' portion of that word. It implies TIME invested in the friendship portion of a romantic relationship.
2. "...someone who whill turn you down in a week" -- turn you down for what, based on what? If you're dating someone and she turns you down in a week, then either:
- a) she's turning you down for another date, presumably because she didn't enjoy your company, isn't interested, you go ahead and name your reason.
- b) she's turning you down for sex. Vague references to being turned down, short-timing this whole thing, stating you don't HAVE time for more friends but want a girlfriend who is a romantic partner, MISSING that if you don't have time to waste on pursuing a woman then you don't actually have time FOR a woman in the first place... this is the reason people figure you're looking for some nooky rather than a romantic relationship.
If you don't have time to invest in someone to woo her, court her, GET her interested in dating, you JUST want a woman who will automatically DATE you, you're MISSING the whole point of having a girlfriend in the first place, unless your point is sex.
At this point me not know if you is be to understanding wordstuffs which are muchly repeated. Srsly.
This is why people think you're after sex and not an actual girlfriend.
1. If you don't have time to invest in more friends, then you don't have time for a girlfriend. Note the 'friend' portion of that word. It implies TIME invested in the friendship portion of a romantic relationship.
2. "...someone who whill turn you down in a week" -- turn you down for what, based on what? If you're dating someone and she turns you down in a week, then either:
- a) she's turning you down for another date, presumably because she didn't enjoy your company, isn't interested, you go ahead and name your reason.
- b) she's turning you down for sex. Vague references to being turned down, short-timing this whole thing, stating you don't HAVE time for more friends but want a girlfriend who is a romantic partner, MISSING that if you don't have time to waste on pursuing a woman then you don't actually have time FOR a woman in the first place... this is the reason people figure you're looking for some nooky rather than a romantic relationship.
If you don't have time to invest in someone to woo her, court her, GET her interested in dating, you JUST want a woman who will automatically DATE you, you're MISSING the whole point of having a girlfriend in the first place, unless your point is sex.
At this point me not know if you is be to understanding wordstuffs which are muchly repeated. Srsly.
Isn't it possible he wants both? He wants a relationship that will have a sexual component. I don't think that is a stretch.
Isn't it possible he wants both? He wants a relationship that will have a sexual component. I don't think that is a stretch.
Is there a better way to do this
Some people were suggesting online dating or a night club it seems the better option without having to talk to hundreds of woman in person my time is just too limited with the small breaks i have when im on campus
Is there a better way to do this
Some people were suggesting online dating or a night club it seems the better option without having to talk to hundreds of woman in person my time is just too limited with the small breaks i have when im on campus
yet people have been meeting on campuses for eons...
Is there a better way to do this
Some people were suggesting online dating or a night club it seems the better option without having to talk to hundreds of woman in person my time is just too limited with the small breaks i have when im on campus
Join social clubs on campus. There are a ton of them. There are plenty of parties at off campus houses and apartment complexes. Skip online dating. Sure, you can send out tons of messages or do tons of swiping from the comfort of your place while sitting in your underwear, but you are really better off finding your dates from in-person activities.
Sometimes you have to be selfish. The women who rejected me I immediately cut off contact with them and they caught the hint and left me alone and I'd do it again to the next woman who turned me down. Will some people think that's childish? Probably. Do I care what they think? No I don't. In the end OP, you gotta do what's right for you. If you want cut these women off, do it. Women don't owe you a relationship, but you don't owe them your friendship either.
Is there a better way to do this
Some people were suggesting online dating or a night club it seems the better option without having to talk to hundreds of woman in person my time is just too limited with the small breaks i have when im on campus
Are you in the US? Right now, it's Saturday. Get some buddies and go out tonight, and you could be talking to women before you know it. Just don't use the mermaid line.
I have a female co-worker who I became best friends with and fell in love with. She wants to be just friends. It is too painful to have what I want right in my face. She insists on being friends and won't leave me alone. I'm stalked by the "Let's Just Be Friends" Monster.
I have a female co-worker who I became best friends with and fell in love with. She wants to be just friends. It is too painful to have what I want right in my face. She insists on being friends and won't leave me alone. I'm stalked by the "Let's Just Be Friends" Monster.
Block her on all off-work sites, speak to her only at work about work-related things, and if she tries to talk about non-work things, just tell her you have to get back to work. Then turn around at your desk and start working. People can only hound you if you let them.
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