Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Oh brother, a lot of assumptions and honestly not worth the time I have already wasted and will never get back.
The topics around here were all beaten to death so I thought I add a new thread.
If it doesn't entertain you, feel free to not read any further and do something more important ... like adding a 20th page to one of the other threads that just keep repeating the same advise over and over.
no, but sex is part of the basics. If the sex sucks or isnt' there and one person needs it to be happy, the relationship is unsatisfying for that person. In turn that person gets grouchy, feels undesired and unattractive, gets insecure, .... and turns into a not happy person and this hurts the relationship.
Sex is part of the basics. They should make an effort, but the reality is their sex drives can be different after hormonal change and stressful schedules. I don't agree with the dutiful sex out of obligation. That truly sucks
I don't talk about the people who have young kids, or care of parents.
I am talking about normal people with normal schedules, weekends off, etc. etc.
People who come here and complain about their spouse for example.
I certainly wouldn't consider some of the people who post here "normal". Probably well over half of the posts are by some troll trying to stir things up or someone with an axe to grind. Sex alone won't make a bad relationship better.
if I had to choose 3 basics for a relationship it would be:
Love
Sex
Money
if one of them is missing, the rest is not working either.
You can't be happy if there is no love in your relationship.
You can't be happy if you need sex and your partner doesn't.
You can't be happy if you have no food to eat and no money to get any.
of course there is more down the list like common goals, interests, blabla ... but these are all negotiable/flexible
That sounds pretty awful. I think lack of sex is generally a symptom and not the root of the problem.
Yeah, good point. I stopped having sex when my kids were little and had to get up in the night several times (he wouldn't help) By the time my youngest was 2, he started detaching from the family. Not involved in our activities, not showing up for stuff. I offered, he wasn't interested. Or he would say he was coming to bed when he finished up something on the computer (which apparently still isn't finished) When they started sleeping and I regained my energy, he started staying out all night without calling, coming home reeking of liquor and garlic, belittling what I did or didn't do, and generally got really angry and aggressive about a lot of stuff. He started watching porn in the same ROOM where my kids were watching TV. The thought of touching him repulsed me. He said he wanted another CHILD and I became terrified of getting pregnant.
All symptoms of a much larger problem, don't you think?
There are LOTS of reasons why people don't have sex. Yes, for a man who showed me love and respect, I would take one for the team when I wasn't in the mood. Absolutely.
Yeah, good point. I stopped having sex when my kids were little and had to get up in the night several times (he wouldn't help) By the time my youngest was 2, he started detaching from the family. Not involved in our activities, not showing up for stuff. I offered, he wasn't interested. Or he would say he was coming to bed when he finished up something on the computer (which apparently still isn't finished) When they started sleeping and I regained my energy, he started staying out all night without calling, coming home reeking of liquor and garlic, belittling what I did or didn't do, and generally got really angry and aggressive about a lot of stuff. He started watching porn in the same ROOM where my kids were watching TV. The thought of touching him repulsed me. He said he wanted another CHILD and I became terrified of getting pregnant.
All symptoms of a much larger problem, don't you think?
There are LOTS of reasons why people don't have sex. Yes, for a man who showed me love and respect, I would take one for the team when I wasn't in the mood. Absolutely.
The topics around here were all beaten to death so I thought I add a new thread.
If it doesn't entertain you, feel free to not read any further and do something more important ... like adding a 20th page to one of the other threads that just keep repeating the same advise over and over.
Actually I thought I would pick my nose and report as I go....
A lot of times I think I'm not in the mood until I decide to "take on for the team" and I get in the mood.
So I think people should TRY more on the other's behalf. Even if the mood is not totally upon you it is an act of intimacy and closeness.
__________________ ____________________________________________
My posts as a Mod will always be in red.
Be sure to review Terms of Service: TOS
And check this out: FAQ
Moderator: Relationships Forum / Hawaii Forum / Dogs / Pets / Current Events
A lot of times I think I'm not in the mood until I decide to "take on for the team" and I get in the mood.
So I think people should TRY more on the other's behalf. Even if the mood is not totally upon you it is an act of intimacy and closeness.
That's exactly what I am talking about.
Maybe I expressed myself poorly.
Of course illness, little kids, stressful job, etc. etc. are a different story.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
