My girlfriend takes 30-60 minute showers (men, Chinese, Indian, Indians)

[Ruth4Truth]

OP, I don't know how it's possible that she'd be able to run the shower for 60 minutes or close to it, and not run out of hot water. Unless you're in a big apartment building.

But if she's showering so long that she's still in there when your show is over and you can't take your shower, like you said, then that's definitely excessive. Odd.

[UserName14289]

Originally Posted by 1AngryTaxPayer

Did you say ex? Just saying

lol Yes, he's an ex because he's abusive, not because he has 5 cars (although that wastefulness was a large point of contention in our relationship, until we came up with the previously mentioned solution).

[Sanguisman]

Let her go five days without a shower, you will be begging for those long ones again.

[rego00123]

Does she have any skin left?

[hal2814]

Originally Posted by barryg

My girlfriend has many wonderful qualities and I love her. But being that we are in a drought, I find her long showers usually average at least 30 min and are often longer, pretty unconscionable.

Obviously it's not "unconscionable" to her. You can't change her and quite frankly it's not your place to tell her how long her showers should be. There's nothing you can (or should) do. She is aware of the drought and is aware of her shower length. If it bothers you that much, then move out.

[Just A Guy]

Bottom line, is that it depends on how selfish she is in other matters. If this is just a one-off thing, I'd let it slide. If this was her normal behavior for most things, she'd be paying 100% of the rent at her own place and I'd be paying my 70% at my new girlfriend's place.

[IonRedline08]

I'm sorry, but, I think OP is making a bigger deal of it than needs be.

You moved into her place I am assuming from the OP.. She has a routine in the shower, whether it's diddling herself, pooping like an elephant, or that she is a clean freak, and here you come and bust her chops about it. Like it or hate it, she has probably been doing this for years, and, the only thing griping will get you is a Uhaul.

[oh-eve]

California is in a state of severe drought. You are not supposed to shower long, water prices are rising. Yards are brown, rivers empty and lakes almost dried up.


I just collected $5k from the state because I turned my yard into a drought resistant landscape and got $$ for putting in new toilets who use less flush water.


Showering for 60 minutes is not only expensive. It is a huge waste of natural resources - drought or no drought - and very ignorant.

[reneeh63]

Originally Posted by meo92953

Recognize that she is definitely not into frugal living or resource conservation. At 40+, chances are she will not change. In 27 or less years you will be able to retire. Are you willing to live with someone who is unwilling to compromise or think of their carbon footprints? It's your decision but it's thoughtless people like this who got us into ecology problems in the first place.

Nooooo - not from long showers. Its all the ag-business and other industries using millions of gallons of water...oh, and how about the celebrities watering their acres and acres? If this is the ONLY thing she does, then OP better hang on to this woman! He gives no indication that she spends on other stuff.

You can SAY this is totally about conservation, but it is extremely controlling to try to browbeat what people do in the bathroom! Do I limit your time to take a dump every day? Or to ___ck off, if that's where you do it? Sorry, but what I do in the bathroom is my business. And I don't share my bathroom, HE gets the other one to stink up for as much time each day as he wants!

Find a bigger battle OP, because as you state it here, this is a stupid one to break up over. You gotta have something more!

[Creature of the Wheel]

Originally Posted by barryg

My girlfriend has many wonderful qualities and I love her. But being that we are in a drought, I find her long showers usually average at least 30 min and are often longer, pretty unconscionable. Last night after another one of her marathon showers, I said you know we have a severe drought. 45 minutes is too long. And while I take 5 min showers, I do realize women have more to do in there. She said "I'll shower as long as I want." And then something to the effect of "you didn't have to move in if you don't like it."

Meanwhile I pay 70% of the rent, since I earn much more than her. I was really put off by her comment. I don't like to find arguments but I'm really turned off by her selfishness in this regard. It makes me wonder if she even knows how bad a drought we have? Not that her actions alone are using up all our water, but it's still not right in my opinion.

By the way, we're both in out 40s.
Thoughts?

She's playing with B.O.B.