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I guess the only thing that bothers me is the OP seems to think how good he is for doing all that. I mean it's really nice.
But should cooking a meal and cleaning up after be such a big deal? I do it the majority of the time, but DH takes over a few times a month.
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Now folks, I know that it's Christmas eve (and I'm in the process of baking cookies. Yes, I said baking cookies (and I'm a man!) But I need the opinion of the fine women here:
What do you think of a man who, at the end of a day, will do the following spontaneously - not every day, but once in a while...
1) Tells his lady to relax, while he makes a good dinner; serves said dinner with (surprise!) a glass of wine
2) After dinner, he clears away the dishes. He lets his lady relax while he cleans up, takes out the garbage, etc.
3) He may even serve dessert. Repeats the cleaning process for the dessert dishes.
4) After the meal, engages in giving his lady a relaxing neck/shoulder massage. Talks with her, no TV, no phone, no internet, e-mail, etc. NO distractions! Just he and she. Making his lady the one main, principal focus of attention. Listening as well as talking!
The reason I ask this is because a now ex-friend (female) made the remark that, "That's so wimpy and not masculine!" Mind you, this ex-friend was in an abusive marriage and likes "bad boys". I have a "bad boy" mentality myself (outspoken, temperamental) but I'd never hit a woman! Ever! Now, isn't what I mentioned above what a woman would appreciate???
Thanks in advance, and Merry Christmas!
Hell to the yes. A man who does the above is a keeper. BUT, it should be more than "once in a while".
I'm very vigilant in this respect, 'cause I don't ever like my kindness taken as weakness! Anyone who knows me will tell you that I'm rather outspoken and the slightest hint of my kindness mistaken will result in my putting the offender on blast!
Being outspoken (the way you present it) and putting people on blast do not make you a man. It makes you sound like a jerk.
Being outspoken (the way you present it) and putting people on blast do not make you a man. It makes you sound like a jerk.
Outspoken in the sense that I'm not mousy or timid and willing to stand my ground when/if the time comes. Putting others on blast is only when/if someone violates my morals, questions my veracity or anything to that effect. I'm also ready, willing, and able to protect the woman I'm with!
Yes, trying too hard is really no way to gain womans respect. Do you know that men who do increasing load of traditionally feminine duties around the house, actually lose their wives respect over time and end up getting hosed in divorce court by their ex wives. If you want to do something for your woman, go for it, just do it because you want to, not because you want something in return. Be a man, not a people pleaser.
I'm single, so I have no choice but to do "feminine duties" around the home. After all, meals won't cook themselves, and floors won't clean themselves. But at least I don't have to worry about anyone's respect but my own. And after reading this, I won't be worrying about getting married, either.
Now folks, I know that it's Christmas eve (and I'm in the process of baking cookies. Yes, I said baking cookies (and I'm a man!) But I need the opinion of the fine women here:
What do you think of a man who, at the end of a day, will do the following spontaneously - not every day, but once in a while...
1) Tells his lady to relax, while he makes a good dinner; serves said dinner with (surprise!) a glass of wine
2) After dinner, he clears away the dishes. He lets his lady relax while he cleans up, takes out the garbage, etc.
3) He may even serve dessert. Repeats the cleaning process for the dessert dishes.
4) After the meal, engages in giving his lady a relaxing neck/shoulder massage. Talks with her, no TV, no phone, no internet, e-mail, etc. NO distractions! Just he and she. Making his lady the one main, principal focus of attention. Listening as well as talking!
The reason I ask this is because a now ex-friend (female) made the remark that, "That's so wimpy and not masculine!" Mind you, this ex-friend was in an abusive marriage and likes "bad boys". I have a "bad boy" mentality myself (outspoken, temperamental) but I'd never hit a woman! Ever! Now, isn't what I mentioned above what a woman would appreciate???
Thanks in advance, and Merry Christmas!
Sorry ItsRick24 but all these overly-emotional beta male posts you do always make me cringe, I have to wonder if you're just pranking us and making us shake our heads in real life -- like an adult version of watching Mr. Noodle on Sesame Street
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Originally Posted by Wannabeliber
Sorry ItsRick24 but all these overly-emotional beta male posts you do always make me cringe, I have to wonder if you're just pranking us and making us shake our heads in real life -- like an adult version of watching Mr. Noodle on Sesame Street
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I said the posts were, he's probably a prankster lol
If what he posts are all 100% actual, well .. OK .. it must turn the ladies on IDK? Does it? Does it matter? Ladies are gross. I'm kidding on that. Alpha males are worthless. Labels are worthless.
Why doesn't he invite ME over for some wine and massages LOL
I checked to see what Rick's other posts were like and it seemed the only ones I took issue with were just the ones in one topic, so I take back the mean thing I said
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