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Things had been going great but it all changed when she got pregnant. I don't want to change the rules but regardless of everything, she was pregnant with a child of mine and it's my duty to support her. She's in no condition to be by herself at this point.
So, offer to marry her. You two can get a house together in which you have your own room, so you can have some private space to "protect". Where are her parents? How old is she, at what age did these 14 years begin? As I see it, she could either be around 28, or she could be in her mid-to-late 30's, or older.
Something about this story sounds awfully familiar; the miscarriage at 23 weeks, for one. Aside from the huge hormonal slam, miscarriages are typically very distressing. It's like losing a baby. (I keep having this deja vu sensation, that we already explained this to you a couple of months ago, OP.) She has to mourn. You do seem to care about the fact that she has seen other guys, even though you try to convince yourself (or us) that you don't, so why not "man" up or adult up, and propose to her? No more open relationship for either of you, just good old-fashioned commitment and hopefully lovey-dovey, once she recovers from this trauma.
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This happens to a lot of first-time posters.
I know what you mean.
The first time I ever posted, I had the unbelievable urge to move in with someone I would never live with, because I had the unreasonable expectation that they would allow me to do that while not speaking to me.
A few days later, I was grateful that I didn't completely move in, and could go home.
You don't know the weight that was off my shoulders.
That's it for me with this story. I'm moving on, and going home. Have a great life everyone!
So, offer to marry her. You two can get a house together in which you have your own room, so you can have some private space to "protect". Where are her parents? How old is she, at what age did these 14 years begin? As I see it, she could either be around 28, or she could be in her mid-to-late 30's, or older.
Something about this story sounds awfully familiar; the miscarriage at 23 weeks, for one. Aside from the huge hormonal slam, miscarriages are typically very distressing. It's like losing a baby. (I keep having this deja vu sensation, that we already explained this to you a couple of months ago, OP.) She has to mourn. You do seem to care about the fact that she has seen other guys, even though you try to convince yourself (or us) that you don't, so why not "man" up or adult up, and propose to her? No more open relationship for either of you, just good old-fashioned commitment and hopefully lovey-dovey, once she recovers from this trauma.
It wasn't a miscarriage. And it is losing a baby. They lost a daughter.
OP, do you think you're in shock and not fully processing your loss (I assume you think her daughter is yours)? This post is awfully similar to one made a couple months ago.
I'm back in my place, it's a 5 minute drive. I went to her bedroom to tell her I would be leaving just like she had asked and that she could call me at anytime in case she needed help. She didn't say anything...buried her head deeper into the pillow and started crying again.
It was hard to just go away knowing she's in that state.
I'm back in my place, it's a 5 minute drive. I went to her bedroom to tell her I would be leaving just like she had asked and that she could call me at anytime in case she needed help. She didn't say anything...buried her head deeper into the pillow and started crying again.
It was hard to just go away knowing she's in that state.
Does she have family or close friends that can check up her? You can call them up and ask for some assistance on her behalf.
I'm back in my place, it's a 5 minute drive. I went to her bedroom to tell her I would be leaving just like she had asked and that she could call me at anytime in case she needed help. She didn't say anything...buried her head deeper into the pillow and started crying again.
It was hard to just go away knowing she's in that state.
So hard that you did all of this in the course of this thread?
Does she have family or close friends that can check up her? You can call them up and ask for some assistance on her behalf.
Many of her friends have called since she lost the baby but she says she doesn't want to see anyone. Her family is small, her mother and sister have already died like I've said. She doesn't have any contact with her father and her brother and his family live far away.
So, offer to marry her. You two can get a house together in which you have your own room, so you can have some private space to "protect". Where are her parents? How old is she, at what age did these 14 years begin? As I see it, she could either be around 28, or she could be in her mid-to-late 30's, or older.
No, I'm not marrying anyone ever. She's 33. I'm 40.
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