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I would likely want to find out why they feel like they need a relationship so badly and what is it about being in a relationship that will change how they feel now. Then likely it's some self esteem thing and trying to work through that.
And if they swore to you that being in a relationship would solve all their problems?
... I REALLY REALLY painfully want a military husband because they are buff and strong and manly and hot and have good morals and standards just everything. I'm just concerned if I take a job here that I'm never going to branch out or find a husband and I won't meet military men.
Move to your nearest Active Duty military base. Settle there are find a job there.
Avoid Online dating apps.
If you are located in a military town, working there, the guys will find you.
Do I know that being single is not the biggest issue in life? Of course but it's MY biggest issue, it's consuming my life. I have accomplished everything else I wanted
That's just crazy, and as soon as a guy gets whiff of that, he is running to the hills, military or other.
You are obsessed with the *idea* of marriage, not the realities. It's something that happens when you meet the right guy. Not find any guy who is willing to marry you and you'll make do. You don't care about the guy at all (superficially).
There is LITERALLY no advice we could give you to make this all happen. You are your own worst enemy.
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And if they swore to you that being in a relationship would solve all their problems?
Sorry class all day!
So again I think finding out why they think a relationship will solve everything, what will a relationship provide that they don't have now and how can we get them what is lacking without being with someone.
Sorry class all day!
So again I think finding out why they think a relationship will solve everything, what will a relationship provide that they don't have now and how can we get them what is lacking without being with someone.
Therapist, heal thyself.
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That's just crazy, and as soon as a guy gets whiff of that, he is running to the hills, military or other.
You are obsessed with the *idea* of marriage, not the realities. It's something that happens when you meet the right guy. Not find any guy who is willing to marry you and you'll make do. You don't care about the guy at all (superficially).
There is LITERALLY no advice we could give you to make this all happen. You are your own worst enemy.
I just don't know what to do. I mean I don't want to be like this but at the same time I feel like no one understand how much I need a relationship. I cannot see myself happy in life without one. I mean yes life has happy points but overall I don't think my life is happy. Everyday being single for me (to me) is wasteful. I am wasting my time not being someones wife, I would be so happy in a relationship. That is when I was the most happy. Literally right now I am sitting in a classroom doing homework during a 3 hour break to avoid sitting in the common area of my building where this one girl is back from having her baby. I am avoiding sitting in there to avoid talking to her and hearing other people talk to her about her baby because I CANNOT be happy for someone who has what I want. I know it is awful and crappy and makes me a piece of crap but I can acknowledge it at least. It is super hard.
So realistically I don't think a relationship will solve everything. I was much much much happier in a relationship than I am now but I was also painfully insecure like texting him everyday to see if he still liked me or if he was mad and if we were ok. What am I lacking that a relationship will provide? Being wanted. I want to be wanted by someone and I want other people to know I can pull someone and I don't suck in life basically.
Literally right now I am sitting in a classroom doing homework during a 3 hour break to avoid sitting in the common area of my building where this one girl is back from having her baby. I am avoiding sitting in there to avoid talking to her and hearing other people talk to her about her baby because I CANNOT be happy for someone who has what I want. I know it is awful and crappy and makes me a piece of crap but I can acknowledge it at least. It is super hard.
That is actually a good move.
It's unfortunate that you cannot feel happy for her, but at least you recognize that sitting in there would be another trigger for you.
It's a coping skill.
So ... Know that everyone has their "thing" that brings them pain, and we do understand. That's why we are trying to break through to you somehow.
So realistically I don't think a relationship will solve everything. I was much much much happier in a relationship than I am now but I was also painfully insecure like texting him everyday to see if he still liked me or if he was mad and if we were ok. What am I lacking that a relationship will provide? Being wanted. I want to be wanted by someone and I want other people to know I can pull someone and I don't suck in life basically.
I can try I need to work on it. It hits me harder sometimes then others
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