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It is never to late to break off a relationship that isn't good for you. He must be ecstatic that he was able to find a decent girl to date him. You need to talk to your parents and he needs at least as long as he was in prison to prove himself. Tell him to call you in a year.
He never went to prison. He only spent time in the county jail
My mental energy is already a little drained being that I am trying to stop him from smoking weed until his probation is done. I do not want him to spend 30 days in jail because that would mean the relationship is over between us
It's not your job to "help" him to quite smoking pot. That's his job. You can't make an addict stop using his drug of choice. Your job is to set firm boundaries and are not to be crossed. Those boundaries should be backed up by strict consequences.
Hey guys thanks for the advices. Just to be clear he never spent time in prison but in the county jail and has been on probation for 2 years now and been out of trouble since he was 21. He is now 23. Once he pays off his probation, his felony charge will drop.
If he hasn't changed by our anniversary which is January 1 or even some months before them, I am ending it. I worked to hard for my accomplishments to have someone come in and ruin everything.
Honestly, everyone has a past and some people past are much worse than others which was why I gave it a shot. He also told me about his past when we first began to talk rather than keeping it a secret. He told me with sincerity
His present is that he cannot stop using weed long enough to finish his probation and he is violating the terms of that probation. This is what addicts do.
You are already enabling him, so you are part of the problem also.
Hey guys thanks for the advices. Just to be clear he never spent time in prison but in the county jail and has been on probation for 2 years now and been out of trouble since he was 21. He is now 23. Once he pays off his probation, his felony charge will drop.
If he hasn't changed by our anniversary which is January 1 or even some months before them, I am ending it. I worked to hard for my accomplishments to have someone come in and ruin everything.
This is not how healthy people set healthy boundaries. You are well on your way to a full blown co-dependent relationship with addict.
You might want to consider attending an Al-Anon meeting or two.
Since you mentioned that both of you are going to church, have you 1) talked to God about this to get his wisdom and guideline?, 2) have you prayed about this and 3) have you talked to God about whether or not he wants you to be with him?
With everything that is happening regarding your boyfriend, perhaps God is telling you that he is not the one for you.
God could very well be telling this guy to east and you to go west. He could very well not want you to go east as well.
I would follow what God tells you, not what your boyfriend tells you.
This is the kind of distinction you make when you are trying to justify something you know isn't quite right.
It sort of does matter because his crimes were considered petty crimes. I even was about to spend time in jail over an unpaid speeding ticket,
I know what he doing isn't right but the county jail is far different from the prison
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