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Even loners like myself want some companionship every blue moon. So if I'm wrong for not accepting your beliefs about relationships as gospel, you seriously need some soul searching.
That is what masturbation is for. It is a quick, easy and cheap way of achieving release that easily replaced the messiness of human sexual interraction
Not everyone finds human interaction as challenging as you do.
Do you say that to everyone on this forum who mention something about their own love-life? Mine was actually framed as a question if you didn't notice which is directed at others, not myself.
And in the 1960s the first gay-rights pioneers were saying that if more people were honest a lot more gay people would be walking around. And?
I'm "recruiting" as much as National Coming Out day is "Recruiting" gay people.
Nope, sorry.
Coming out is saying, "This is who I am. Accept me or don't, but it's who I am."
It's not saying, "This is who I am, and if you weren't all so brainwashed, you'd see that you should embrace the same philosophies."
I'm asked if I have a girlfriend or a wife all the time, and if I say know people ask more questions after awhile. It's like being gay or something: my lifestyle makes me a freak to a great many people and they have no qualms about letting me know that is the case
Most people consider that sort of question to be small talk, not much more intrusive than "What is new with you?". I doubt your single status leads people to believe you are a "freak". Now, if you start ranting about how advertisers have brain-washed us all, that might raise some eyebrows.
Learn to respond politely. "Happily single. And you?"
If something is bugging you, just say so. In reality a lot of people in relationships aren't particularly worried about what "society" says, much less whether you are in a relationship or not. People often ask me about my relationship status but I believe it has more to do with not having anything else to talk about really.
Coming out is saying, "This is who I am. Accept me or don't, but it's who I am."
It's not saying, "This is who I am, and if you weren't all so brainwashed, you'd see that you should embrace the same philosophies."
That kinda how I'm reading it as well. However , there seems to be an underlying bitterness about relationships that stands in opposition to the projected adamance about them being a waste of time. I suppose that spending ones time in the company of a cat, taking the situation in hand, would make actual human interaction somewhat difficult and awkward. Such ...leisure activity...doesn't really allow for practice of social skills.
Being alone is OK , in regulated doses, but I , personally, prefer being in my lady's company. She feels the same. There are times when one or the other of us needs some time to ourselves. I tend to leave Ber be in the mornings, go for my morning walk, whatever, and give her wake up space for a couple hours. She likes go watch her TV shows without being distracted, stuff like that. I know when to give a degree of seperation, as does she.
But we need each others company far more than alone time. The time alone we give each other is so our time together is better and both more pleasant and productive. Through our lives, we've both spent long stretches of time alone. Years. Enough to know that our current state is far more preferable. But we never fell into a state of bitterness regarding being on our own. Makes what we have now even better.
Societies expectations say you should be in a relationship when in reality you don't. I'm in my mid twenties and dating in my early twenties sucked completely. I even stopped dating college girls because I got nowhere with them after dating a few. The woman I'm with now is 28 and we have a lot in common.
That is what masturbation is for. It is a quick, easy and cheap way of achieving release that easily replaced the messiness of human sexual interraction
I thought like you once when I first joined this forum then I had sex with an actual woman and no longer think that way
You seem really invested in having random strangers back up and validate your personal choices.
"I think if everyone were honest, more people would agree with me that celibacy is the way to go," etc. Dude, own your choices and preferences without wasting time trying to convince others that if they were smart, they'd sign on to your philosophy, and if they don't, that clearly indicates that society has successfully sold them a bill of goods. Is it so hard to grasp that different people want, value, and enjoy different things?
Your continued attempts to "recruit" others to your mindset kind of undercuts your own assertion that people should embrace their individuality, versus signing on to what others tell them to do.
Yep... that is exactly how he comes across.
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