Pressured into marriage - any success stories?

[weezerfan84]

Originally Posted by coschristi

My mother was the very first in the entire Greek community in Denver to refuse an arranged marriage.

This was in 1966. Instead, she married an Irish Catholic (my father) & was promptly disowned; which

lasted about 10 years. They are still married.

All of her aunts, uncles, cousins & friends complied with their arranged marriages & NONE of them

are divorced.

I realize the context of this thread is more towards "pressured" as in by the intended spouse but I

have always found this topic interesting.

I do have a friend who between having his first date and to the wedding day, was less than 6 months. Both of them are Southern Baptist and he said, when you know, you know. They knew of each other, but never really traveled in the same circles. They just celebrated 9 years of marriage together and have 2 children. They're the only couple I know of that moved that quickly and are still together. Both of them are so rooted in their faith that I expect both of them to want to stay together forever. When you see them together, all you see is two people who truly were meant for each other. They both line up on things that matter, which is their families. Also, they're both a bit soft spoken and passive, which works out for the both of them.

[Inkpoe]

Originally Posted by oh-eve

The other thread made me wonder:


Are there any guys here that had a longterm relationships who got pressured into marriage and it worked out? Or not?


I am looking for real success/failure stories, not opinions.

I would think there's lots of these stories. Shotgun weddings, for example. My parents had a shotgun wedding, lasted 18 years though it didn't work out as they already were incompatible.


I knew a guy who had to propose to his girl a certain way with the "right" ring. She went over the top with the wedding. He was for whatever reason, surprised by that she continued to be very high maintenance and demanding, and was dismayed when their daughter started showing signs of being like her mother. He's pretty miserable. I guess they count as "working out" as they're still married.

[riceme]

Originally Posted by reds37win

I'm kinda curious about another aspect, but not sure it is thread worthy. That is, has anyone married someone after a very short courting period and had success doing so.

My parents got married six weeks after meeting on a blind date. Mutual friends invited them over for supper. My dad was a widower, and the couple knew my dad and my birth mother, who had asked friends and family to help him move on and find a new wife and mother for my sister and I after she died. My mom (my "step" mom, to be clear... I would never call her that in real life) was divorced from my ("step") brother and sister's dad, and they'd also known her and her ex-husband. Six weeks later, they got married in their living room.

They have been happily married for 39 years, and love each other more every day. I have never known two people that had a better marriage or partnership. My bedroom is across the hall from theirs, and in the past when I have gone home to visit I used to get really uncomfortable with the TMI that I heard from across the hall at night. I finally realized that ALL of us should be so lucky to be that in love after so many years. My dad is 84, by the way. So, good for them.

[TabulaRasa]

My parents got engaged about six weeks after their first date. Next month will be their 44th wedding anniversary.

My husband and I got engaged after dating just over eight months. We got married five months after that.